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Feeling rejected

Posted by
DONZ
on May 24 2019 at 21:59
Member since: 24 May 2019
Emotional advice I've been dating this guy for 3 months. Nothing too serious but we enjoy each other's company. Unfortunately his mother died 3 weeks ago and since then he hasn't been replying to my texts. I sent him a final text telling him I understood what he's going through but I felt sad and rejected and i want to offer him my support . He replied a day later saying hes sorry i feel that way but I should understand that he's going through a lot and has a lot to organize and he'll contact me when things have settled.

I do understand this but where we used to text every day there is zero communication now. I know he's going through a lot but I can't help feeling rejected. I just want to give him my support but I'm unable to. Should I just be patient or is this proof that he's just not that into me?

Feeling rejected
Reply from
HOOO!
on May 24 2019 at 22:49
Member since: 24 May 2019
Some people just tend to make out problems with themselves.

They feel weak and don't know how to accept outside help.

It could mean anything.

Why don't you just go over there and be there for him? Cook him a nice dinner, help him sort papers or whatever it is he has to do.

However bringing drama into his live is probably no good idea

Feeling rejected
Reply from
DONZ
on May 24 2019 at 22:58
Member since: 24 May 2019
No he has made it clear he wants to deal with it with just his family and I've respected his wishes and have not attempted to contact him so not to create any drama. I guess I just have to be patient. He may call me in time...he may not. What will be will be
Feeling rejected
Reply from
LILY31
on May 25 2019 at 06:43
Member since: 08 September 2016
Hey

I think it is just a matter of being patient like you say, and respecting the space he’s asking for. He’s probably not communicating too much with his friends or anyone else tbh.

He has to go through the whole grieving process too, so this is going to take a while.

If he was serious about you he will come back :-).

Feeling rejected
Reply from
HOOO!
on May 28 2019 at 20:12
Member since: 24 May 2019
I think that's bullshit. If he is not willing or not able to share his drama and or emotions means either

You are not the right person or

He is emotionally not grown up

For me personally both would be unacceptable. I would communicate this.

However that might be acceptable to you, so hey.

Feeling rejected
Reply from
DONZ
on May 28 2019 at 23:28
Member since: 24 May 2019
Things have changed since the I posted this. I've found out he's been hanging out with his friends playing golf and has also attended a wedding yet still hasn't texted me. So it's now obvious he has no regard for me so I've ended the whole thing and am moving on.
Feeling rejected
Reply from
WANDERLUST7
on Jun 5 2019 at 22:32
Member since: 04 June 2019
Everyone handles trauma differntly, I myself shut down and do not talk to anyone even if i love the person so he may be the same.

As for him hanging out with his friends, he may feel more comfortable expressing his feelings to his friends as opposed to a girl who he doesn't want to seem "weak" around

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