So, I love someone deeply and he loves me deeply but he has some pretty deep trauma from being abused so much. I want to give him space to heal before we start dating. It is a bit exhausting for me but I am in it for the long haul. Any advice for the two of us?
how do you think holding yourself the love and relationship back will help him or yourself?
I guess I shouldn't hold back. The tricky thing is that he is still with his abuser, in which case I need to empower him to leave her. After he leaves for good then I need to help him heal and then we can date.
You are a friend
Not a psychologist
Nor a therapist
I don't think helping him will solve a problem
If he doesn't do it on his own, then what is the point?
Some people like to stay in their abusive relationships for their own reasons.
You can help making things clear to him or give him options.
You coming here however does not suggest that it actually pays of in terms of concrete actions.