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Loving someone with trauma

Posted by
LOVINGKINDNESS
on May 29 2019 at 01:42
Member since: 29 May 2019
Relationship advice So, I love someone deeply and he loves me deeply but he has some pretty deep trauma from being abused so much. I want to give him space to heal before we start dating. It is a bit exhausting for me but I am in it for the long haul. Any advice for the two of us?
Loving someone with trauma
Reply from
HOOO!
on May 29 2019 at 05:26
Member since: 24 May 2019
how do you think holding yourself the love and relationship back will help him or yourself?
Loving someone with trauma
Reply from
LOVINGKINDNESS
on May 29 2019 at 14:13
Member since: 29 May 2019
I guess I shouldn't hold back. The tricky thing is that he is still with his abuser, in which case I need to empower him to leave her. After he leaves for good then I need to help him heal and then we can date.
Loving someone with trauma
Reply from
HOOO!
on May 29 2019 at 18:44
Member since: 24 May 2019
You are a friend

Not a psychologist

Nor a therapist

I don't think helping him will solve a problem

If he doesn't do it on his own, then what is the point?

Some people like to stay in their abusive relationships for their own reasons.

You can help making things clear to him or give him options.

You coming here however does not suggest that it actually pays of in terms of concrete actions.

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