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Posted by
GIRLSTRESSED19
on Jun 16 2019 at 09:09
Member since: 16 June 2019
Relationship advice Okay so. I did something bad. I violated my boyfriend's trust and looked at his phone.

Long story.. Been together 6 months and met online. He went on holiday and came back a different person and I just knew something was up.

I've only ever had the urge to check someone's phone once before and lo and behold he was cheating on me. So I had this urge again, a sixth sense, an intuition. And there it was... A message to his ex (he was engaged to her, together 5 years but he had a year long affair so they split up) it was the longest, most romantically beautifully written message I've ever read. Saying how he wanted her back (been broke up over a year now) and that he wanted her to be there on holiday with him and lots more romantic things. I could barely get a "wish you were here babe" from him.

This was obviously a kick in the gut, I love him very much and he is amazing,he told me he loved me and we have already had some amazing experiences together. The ex fobbed him off and nothing else has been said and he's still acting like everything is fine with me and organising dates etc? Am I plan b? I did something bad but found out something worse.. Advice please.

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Reply from
HOOO!
on Jun 16 2019 at 12:14
Member since: 24 May 2019
What do you think you should do?

What are your options?

Do you feel like plan B?

Would you be ok with being "plan B"?

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Reply from
GIRLSTRESSED19
on Jun 16 2019 at 13:14
Member since: 16 June 2019
I wondered what other people would do in this situation? He's cheated before in his past. and it doesn't look like he's changed. I just don't think he should he dating whilst he has these type of feelings. I would love to be his plan a but only when the time is right?
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Reply from
SUSIEDQQ
on Jun 16 2019 at 23:47
Member since: 27 December 2013
You said he wasn’t himself after going on holiday. Plus you now know he tried to reconnect with an ex.

Be good to yourself and let him go. He just sounds distracted and unable to give you attention. Six months is not a long time.

You are right: the timing is off.

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Reply from
HOOO!
on Jun 21 2019 at 14:57
Member since: 24 May 2019
I don't understand the question in your last post. Maybe because English is not my native language. Please elaborate.

What are you going to do?

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