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Am I his mother or his girlfriend?

Posted by
RACHL
on Jun 21 2019 at 12:36
Member since: 21 June 2019
Relationship advice been with my bf for several years and we are generally compatible except when it comes to $.

He has only a small amount of assets, I don't.

He only earns a modest salary, I don't.

I am an avid saver, he isn't.

but...we are compatible in many ways like

interests

family

personality

sex

I can't help myself, when I see him going off track financially and any financial obligations, I speak up and try to do so nicely but firmly. I feel like his mother and only say something when it really bothers me. He knows I know his bank account information thinking that would make me feel better but it doesn't.

He wants to live with me but all of this has put it on hold.

He sometimes compliments me "for helping him being a better person and being financially responsible" and other times carries a chip on his shoulder if I shame him (in a nice way). I am very moral and sometimes I just feel he is not, it's that simple.

I know we should love someone for who they are but what happens if you know what they are doing is just wrong under anyone's definition?

We do love each other and we are both beyond middle age....do I give up? I don't want to be his mother the rest of my life and want to know my SO is acting responsibly.

Am I his mother or his girlfriend?
Reply from
HOOO!
on Jun 26 2019 at 19:12
Member since: 24 May 2019
Have you discussed this in all of its implications?
Am I his mother or his girlfriend?
Reply from
SUSIEDQQ
on Jun 27 2019 at 13:47
Member since: 27 December 2013
If things were reversed, would he take care of you ( now and in the future)?

You have posted SO many times about this issue!!

This thread has expired, but why not create your own?