How to end it once and for all
hi , ive spearated from my husband a yr because he lied and cheated thro out 5 yrs marraige, since hes been gone hes on his 2nd relationship i dont want him back as my husband but ... im still having sex with him on a weekly basis i av no commitment wot so ever with him i avent had a relationship with anyone since hes gone.... the fact that hes with someone new doesnt bother him at all hes not changed at all ....i cant seem to let him go and hes the same.... im jealous of his new gf even tho i dont know her, its gotten to the stage i read both their walls on facebook and read his emails which he doesnt know about so i see wot he got her for xmas etc and i get angry but i cant tell him becasues he,ll know ive been snoopin..... why am i doing this? i definaltely dont want him back ... but why cant i move on ... why cant i get him out of my life once and for all because hes not a nice person really....i want to find a nice man and move on but when ur lookin they just dont come along... i think once he does come along ill find it easier to forget my ex .. but i know he will b gutted if i find another man that i could love again...any advice form men or women greatly appreciated thanks
You need to STOP having sex with him. He's having his cake and eating it too. I think you are jealous because you were once his wife, His first priority and now you probably feel like a side-dish and this other ''girlfriend'' he has is his main dish. But he cheated on you and you broke it off with him and sex is soppose to be a private, between two partners who love/like each other alot. The fact that sex is very important in a relationship and you broke it off with him but you're still giving him sex and i'm sure you guys cuddle after sex. Have talks, etc but he knows he can go back home to his girlfriend and call you up whenever he wants. And in his eyes you're still strung up on him (even if you're not.) But i honestly think you do still have feelings. Maybe the feelings have eased somewhat but you're still intimate with him and you're snooping threw not only his walls but his girlfriends facebook walls.
If you truly want him to respect you and/or take you more seriously you've got to quit having sex with him. Stop being his side dish. Tell him he's already made his choice and that the next time you have sex it will be with your future husband. Make yourself look special. A prize.
And also, you will never fully get over him if you're still seeing him or looking threw his and his girlfriends facebook wall. You got to get him out of your life for the mean time and work on yourself. Just thank your lucky stars theres no children involved. He wants to be with his girlfriend, thats who he wants to put as his facebook relationship status, not you. So don't give him any of you. If he calls you up to hang out or ''sleep together'' you've got to be the stronger one an diss him or else you are going to feel like his third wheel an you'll never fully be able to move on and you will waste years of being lonely while hes out sleeping and doing whatever he wants..
are you a normal woman,cause every woman wants to be the one and the only,you must prove that your not going to play secondary role if you want to play the main role,its normal that you have some feelings from your relationship but to continue all this seems to be nonesense
thanks for ur replies since ive been here last things av changed ive told him he has to leave me alone to get on with my life and i dont want him to contact me again, ive stopped snoopin , he dont like it tho hes textin me to meet up for chat and ive refused he texted that hes missin me and texting kisses with unhappy face
but ive stood firm and avent replied picked up divorce papers and got that going hes not happy that ive stopped all contact with him altho i never phone or text him hes the one that contacts me , but ive been good and stuck to my guns so im really pleased with myself so thanks for ur comments and advice
GOOD! Stay strong, Trust me he will miss you and miss the attention and realize that he can't have you no more and it will drive him crazy. He is either getting bored with his girlfriend or deep down still has feelings for you so you rejecting any of his advances will make him wonder and he will hate it and try to step up his charm and he will see if you will give in. PLELASE DONT! Us woman need to stand up for ourselfs and not let guys think they can pick and choose and walk all over. He, like many guys are selfish and he will want you even more now that you are letting him no that you won't have any of it and that you are moving on! Kudos!