My problem is the way we're perceived in public. Anytime we hold hands or kiss in public people act like they're repulsed by what they see. It doesn't help that she's kind of smallish for her age and often wears her hair in braids or pigtails. If you saw her for the first time and thought she was 14 or 15, you could be forgiven. Does anyone have any good advice for how to deal with these people and their rude and nasty comments? We are both consenting adults where we live, are doing nothing wrong, and don't like having to explain ourselves to total strangers who act like what we are doing is their business.
The same goes for you. Perhaps you are the one who looks older than 39.
This is just a suggestion.
Expect people to have a reaction if she looks young and you look older than your ages.