He is retired & I still work. On my days off I suggest a walk or go something together, which is always refused. We both have elderly parents who would like to see more of their grandchildren but he refuses to visit them, maybe a few times a year and it’s done under duress.
His inactivity I can cope with but not doing things together means I miss that sense of closeness & get our sex life is poor. I also have growing resentment that he won’t visit parents with me. He doesn’t stop me from going on my own but I find I have to make excuses as to why he is not able to come.
I’d appreciate some advise
I find it can be a drain as we all need some alone time or off time. Maybe both of you need a change. Get away for a romantic weekend.
Does he have any hobbies ( golf, gardening, cooking)?
The only thing I can suggest is to make the plans and then let him know that you both will attend. He may grudgingly go along.
I know several retirement aged couples with this same issue.