I specifically asked him how much money he has left in his account each month after paying bills and he said about $1,000 but last month he had only a few hundred (which he later said was closer to $150; in reality I know its $130). I asked him to repeat the answer which he did. For example, I know the prior month he had $300 and the other months about $400. when I asked again today b/c I said it didn't sound right, he said maybe it was closer to $400.00.
I also asked why is he is using 3 credit cards when he used only use 2 and he had no real answer. I asked him twice how much he owes on the cards which needs to be paid in 2 weeks and he said $1,000.00 - he repeated the same answer when I asked him about it today. But I know it's $1,500.00.
Do you consider either or both lies? I asked him to show me his bank statements to show me how he thinks he has $1,000/month extra and he didn't but said moving forward, he would. Really, I've heard that before.
What's so ironic is that I've broken up with him for brief periods when I knew he was lying and he promised me he changed. He did get better in certain regards but not 100% obviously.
He tells me I'm a fool for not allowing him to move in and pay me rent instead of him paying his landlord and he will never hurt me financially and it's foolproof for me b/c if it doesn't work out, I tell him to leave. Is it that easy??
He then brings up stuff about my adult child that doesn't like him and I've made no progress and why can't I be honest about it with him??
Help!!! Do I just walk away after 6 years of dating him. He says he would just date me instead of living together but is that an answer???