Hi, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend since two years. It is mostly a long distance thing.
Previously, like every relationship it used to be very romantic, but now it seems the spark is gone. He is no longer romantic, he no longer sings to me like he used to previously (as music is one of his hobbies) , he does not take interest in my likings or those things which make me happy, he has changed.
When I talked about this to him, he said every relationship has this problem and we need to mature after sometime. But I still want to keep our relationship alive and cheerful. I never felt the need to change. When I am having problems and cry my heart out, all he says now is don't cry for stupid reason, just move on.
And he is being brutally honest recently. As it is a long distance relationship I have tried every possible way to make time for ourselves like video calling, asking him to watch a movie at the same time, sending him pics of what Im doing. But he does not reciprocate it the same way as me, it is rather a cold response from him.
He says he loves me a lot and he does not need to prove it. And that I am being too selfish and trying to seek attention.
I give him his space, I do not disturb him while he is at work, or taking rest or chilling all by himself. I am used to him not giving me the importance that I expect from him, but now it is starting to feel unbearable.
Now I do not feel like sharing anything with him, thinking he will not respond and that will make me mad. Everytime I try talking to him regarding this, he says it's all your mind playing games with you, we both know we love each other and nothing else is needed. That's the end of conversation and I'm not able to express myself any further and he is not ready to listen any more. So it ends up staying with me.
If I ignore him, he does call me up, but just to say hi hello what are you doing and hang up. And I am again left with my feelings within me. It is becoming more of an elderly couple relationship whose only duty is to stay as husband and wife because of their kids.
Also we have almost zero sex life because he does not want it, and I'm still ok with that decision of his. Also we never talk for hours because we both are busy with our work. Also we hardly video call, because he is busy most if the time and hanging out with his friends. I'm ok with that too. But what is hurting me is his brutal honesty and indifference. Please help.
I am so disturbed and, not being able to share it with anyone this is the only platform I thought of pouring my heart out. Sorry for the very long post.