Hello, I’ve been with my partner for more than 2 years now. O’ve Moved outside London to be near and bought a house. I was living with for while whilst the house got ready and we both moved in together. I’ve noticed that he was receiving telephone calls from a woman and the way he spoke to her got my attention. They havave never met. He claims she is his niece from Nigeria , she is living over there and he is her. It was ok. Then he was receiving video calls from her every night 11.00, 12 and so on. I thought that is not right. I found out that she didn’t know anything about me, until I found her on Facebook and liked her pictures. Of course, he was really angry about it. He started to silenced his phone in the evening. He calls her as soon as I leave house in the morning, they message each other during day, he video calls during his lunch time and before I get home. They started to talk to each just few months before I moved in with him. He sends her money, helps her with whatever she needs. I don’t feel is right. He claims she is his niece but I found out she is not. We had numerous arguments as I think that’s not normal. Cut the story short, he told me that she is now his best friend and he has developed a very close and special relationship with her and they won’t stop. He is 53 getting divorce with 2 kids. His daughter is the girl’s age 21 and doesn’t talk to his kids on daily basis like with this girl. He tells me that I have a problem and there is nothing wrong and he won’t stop talking to her. We have been arguing because of this girl for months and now I said it’s either her or me otherwise it’s the end. He just said fine. I’ve helped this so much, never asked for anything in return just to be loved but I guess that’s not enough. Is this normal?
Now that your eyes are open; open them wider. You are the "Side Chick" and his Main Chick was always in the picture.. He's put you on notice that she's in and you're out. You knew this was wasn't his niece. You also figured out that this man is a lying cheating Ass hole. Yet you felt he owes you love because of how helpful you've been (time to grow up).
I'm not sure how old you are; you asked is this normal? It's normal for a Cheater, but your normal should have been to pack your bags and left with your dignity and self-respect in tact.. He's told you that he will continue the relationship with this girl. When You said "its me or her", and he chose her, you should "Thank God" he chose her, this is not the type of man you or any woman wants. He's A Lying Cheating Ass hole; (once a cheater always a cheater)
This is called Life.. and in life you experience hurt, lost, betrayal, love and everything in between. What you just experience is an Experience 53 yr old man taking advantage of inexperienced young woman.
Pack your bags, move on and don't look back. You deserve better.
Good Luck to you and keep in touch.
Pack his bags my darling!
You are worth so much more than to be questioning your mans loyalties like this.
To even have to say ‘it’s me or her’ is degrading yourself, please find some self worth in there and end this immediately.
I know it’s hard, and not always simple. But search for a way out !
You say they have never met? Yet he sends her money and she takes up a lot of his time?
. Hmmmm. He MUST be getting something out of this.
Wonder what it is....
There is no doubt in my mind, he knew this girl.