Husband of one month cheated while dating
I recently discovered my husband of one month cheated with a an online prostitute in 2017 and went to a massage parlor for a hand job in 2017 as well. Both months were a big milestone for us. The first we said the L word and the second time, we had just moved in together. He had 38 “encounters” since 2011. He was engaged during the previous years to someone else. He swears that November 2017 was the last time and he has a much stronger love for me and cried which I have never seen him do. I’m so lost and don’t know if I believe him. I’m not sure if I get a divorce or trust him. It’s not like our sex life lacks anything. But it’s so hurtful to read the things he said about these women and disgusts me. I don’t know if I could ever be intimate with him or believe him again.
When did you two decide to be exclusive to each other?
Your husband had a life before you. Are you going to let that ruin your marriage and affect the future?
How did you find out about all these incidents?
So in 2017 your husband cheated twice on you? where were you in the line up? How did you find out about these encounters?
Yes we all have a past; however past can sometimes predict your future. If in reading these hurtful and digesting comments about these other woman shows you a different side of him; then who is he really? The suddenly "sad" man who now a "stronger love" for you? I don't by it.. and I wouldn't trust him.
You said "you don't know if you could be intimate with him or believe him again" what have you read/or seen to make you feel divorce is a consideration?
Firstly, did you go snooping or something or did he just admit it? If it was snooping then there was something about him you didn't trust to begin with. If these things occurred before you got together then cut him some slack.