Need to vent
I posted one time on here like last year I think. I don’t want to talk to close friends or anything about this because it’s like embarrassing I guess. A few times I’ve overheard things or suspected my dad of cheating on my mom.
This time I saw text messages because (I admit) I was snooping on purpose on my dad’s phone. I took screen shots with my phone and sent them to my sister. We’re both in our early 20s. Haven’t showed my mom or said anything to anyone. I don’t know if I should confront my dad, tell my mom or just keep quiet because “its none of my business” even though I feel like it is to some degree. I don’t know what to do and I’m kind of like sick to my stomach about it.
Unfortunately I have been in a similar situation. I think, maybe you should tell you mother about it. It is her relationship and she deserve to know the truth. It would be in her best interest to decide how to handle the situation. It is never easy, just make sure you and your sister are unrelenting in your support for your mother.
Thank you ICARUS.. my youngest siblings are just over a year old.. twins.. I’m 22.. like we are always on the go.. I’m the second oldest of 6 kids.. my mom does so much and my dad is cool but.. yeah I’m just lost with what to do and I don’t want to vent to any of my friends or ask them ya know
Your mother may already know.
With 6 kids, life is just getting through the day for both of them. Marriages suffer when partners don't work on staying connected. Do you notice that about your parents relationship?
His “secret” is now known by you and your sister. Eventually, it will be revealed and have to be dealt with.
Perhaps you can find an adult to talk to about this(relative or school counselor) You are caught in the middle and need help to stay safe in the upcoming storm to come.
SUSIEDQQ I’m not home as much as I used to be, finishing up my last semester of college now so I’m kind of in and out. They don’t see totally out of the ordinary but I guess little things are off.
A part of me wants to talk to my dad directly but I’m just I don’t know.. I don’t know if he would lie or what.. he doesn’t have a temper or anything so I don’t know that he would get mad but I can see him lying his way around things.. he’s a very witty kind of guy and can definitely come up with shit on the spot if he needs to..
Thanks for taking the time to respond. I just needed to get it off my chest somehow
You need to tell your dad that you know about his cheating and that he needs to tell your mother. It's his place to come clean to her, not yours.
HANNAM - I think you’re right. I just need to get some balls and say something to him. I’m having a hard time with that
CC1993 - He's the one that has something to worry about. He's the one doing wrong. You have the upper hand by confronting him and once he know's that his secret is out, the pressure will be on him, not you.