I spoke to her mum about it she said I got nothing to worry about she just needs more commitment. So I moved in and gave up my life to start a new.
I got swept up in being a stay at home dad whilst working from home. Took on her step son who I've always seen as my own.
I do all the household chores, cooking seeing to the kids. She just sits on her phone. And once in a blue moon she'll do something and has to let everyone know about it.
She's definitely a narcissist. Everything I do or say is wrong. I'm not allowed to be ill or have an opinion. Constantly moans about everything and needs attention.
We tried for a baby for a few years and after a lot of stress and tests, finally happened.
I try to be a good partner and dad. She moans that I don't hug or kiss her, but when I try she usually pushes me away and says why you doing that. It has to be when she wants. But it has been hard these couple of years when I know she's messaging him. I guess I stayed for the kids. She never genuinely asks about how I feel. I've been on anti depressants and lately she'll say to me why do you look miserable and sound depressed, you need to get over your self. I think bout ending my life everyday. I do feel alone. I know partners moan in general, but it's all the time, I usually just go to the bathroom have a cry and start again.
End of last year begining of this year, Discovered more provocative messages, guess I tried to deliberlty avoid it. and them both saying you are deleting these aren't you. The filth is definitely coming from him. Does make my blood boil some of the things he's saying. Ive stopped anti depressants as feel what's the point.
I've made comments to her about people who sext and emotionaly cheat, and she always agrees it's wrong.
Again spoke to her mother, and she not happy with him and says I need to speak to my partner. She also said it looks one sided and even though she's messaging back he's the one with the dirty text. how on earth do you speak to someone who gets agressive when they're confronted about anything and flip it and make it all your fault. Like when she knows she said something that's upset me, she goes off on one saying why do you do that you've got such an attitude problem i can't say anything.
And I'm constantly being accused of seeing someone else. (really)
Sometimes I do wonder if it's actually me
But a person can only keep up appearances
For so long in a day.
When she emotionaly cheats on you and throws it back in your face and then has the gall to state that you're seeing someone else, tells you absolutely where you stand. She's not only controlling and insecure but, going by your post, she has no idea of how a loving relationship functions.
Professional counseling will assist you to find the strength to make a move which will eventually help you to heal and regain your happiness without looking back over your shoulder. We all need love and respect in our personal relationships just as we all need to recognise when it's time to move on when things don't work out regardless of our efforts and however hard a thing is to do. There's always a light at the end of the tunnel but we just have to really look for it sometimes.