Hi, I am in a 4 year relationship. I'm not sure that we are in love. We have a great time together, but we also have issues over the most insignificant things. I don't feel that we communicate very well at all. And most of the time I feel like I'm walking on eggshells.
I am trying to find out who I am after being in a 23 year marriage and stay at home mom. I am very sensitive. Always have been. I find it has been hard to become stronger when I'm being told "I guess if I want something done right, I should do it myself!".
Why would someone put up with being talked down to? Am I just afraid of being alone?
He's pressuring me to get married and I'm just not sure we are right for each other.
Your gut is talking to you when you post about the doubts that you're feeling within your relationship. If you're not relaxed or comfortable about it, regardless if you're a sensitive person, then your best option isn't marriage. Marriage is not something to be taken lightly, as you well know, and if you feel that you're being pressured into it, then it's a red flag.
If you're not in love with the guy and he doesn't know the real you after 4 years, then he's basically just a friend, rather than 'that' someone who has used those 4 years to understand you, nuture you, love and respect you.
Thank you. I guess I do know in my gut. It's so difficult because he tells me how much he loves me all the time and is so grateful that I'm with him. I am not good with conversation, especially such a serious one that needs to be done.