First time posting here, and wanting opinions. I feel really silly posting but would like advice.
So after 20 years of not seeing my alcoholic father, who abandoned me at 5 years old. I managed to track him down out of curiosity as a teenager. He was still an alcoholic and lets say it didnt end well again. Then, About 5 years ago i managed to find the strength to forgive him for his poor ways as an absent, violent parent. He got sober for 20 plus years and we were on a good terms. I praised him for his abstinence and was proud of him. Last year i lost my best friend to suicide, and struggled with finances. I have never asked my dad for a penny, nor did he pay maintainance as i grew up. So i asked to lend £40. I paid 20 back and completely forgot to send the other 20 due to the emotional turmoil i was suffering from bereavement. I explained what i was going through and apologised but told me to stop making excuses and threatened to take me to court over the £20 outstanding. I blocked him again out of my life as i have shed enough tears over that man, but found out he messages my teenage son without mention of myself. Do i sound to you guys like i've been a terrible daughter? I was so hurt being threatened with court over a minor amount. Surely I am worth more than that? X
Pay back the loan, because that’s what should be done, if you haven’t already. Don't expect anything else from him.
How old is your son?