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Long-term boyfriend suddenly avoiding sex

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S-e-x advice Iv been with by boyfriend for 10 years now and we are still great, we are each others best friends and as corny as it sounds we really are. We used to have a great sex life and he used to be trying every second for something but lately.. Past couple of months he hasnt been trying. I'm not used to initiating sex as I usually don't need to and I enjoy knowing he wants me but I got fed up with him not so I decided to start which he seemed just OK about. I ended up telling him how I feel and he assured me he is totally still I to me and things went back to sort of normal. Then the past week he's gone backwards.. We would always have sex on weekend mornings and after a lot of waiting for him to start the past weekend I started things off which he seemed good with until he heard the dog walking about and said will we just leave it until later with the dog in.. This same boy would have previously thrown the dog out and ran back to bed. Later never came he never tried again. Outside of the bedroom he is the perfect boyfriend. I can't help but take this personally and I don't want to talk to him about it or he will just act into me again for a while. Any advice would help
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Long-term boyfriend suddenly avoiding sex

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As much as you don't want to talk to him again, it's going to be the only way you can resolve it, because only he can give you the answers. 10 years is a lot of history and you guys should be able to talk it out successfully.

Long-term boyfriend suddenly avoiding sex

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Hi Amme!
I'm sorry that you are going through this experience. For 10 years your sex life has been the same--good, but he has always been the initiator. You like that, but unfortunately, this is not only about you. It's good that you have sometimes taken the initiative, but the problem is still going on. Everyone matures and changes as they get older, and it's possible the he is growing tired of the same, not because it has anything to do with you or that hes not attractive to you, but that again, people change as they age, and he is possibly just going through a life change. You may also go through one sometime in the future. Be sensitive and understanding to him, because this may not be about sex, it could be about something else. So have a heart to heart with him, and encourage him to share his feelings with you. If you truly love him, you will be understanding and not get angry with whatever the problem is. Relationships are give and take, and partners need to be there for each other to lean upon when they are going through emotional troubles. Be supportive, and try your best to be there and help him through whatever it is.

Hope this helps!

Long-term boyfriend suddenly avoiding sex

LAFLAMME profile image
Men can have such problems as they get older, I don't think it's something about you if there is no other problems in your relationship. Just try to talk to him and ask what's happening.

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