Is she into me or not
Hi everyone, I need some help with this girl as to if she is into me or not.
For starter I grew up with this girl, our mothers were best friends, so we grew up together. I am 8 years her senior. It wasn't till 10 years ago that our roads split up, although we did kept in touch, it was sometimes once a week, sometimes once every month, but not everyday as it used to be. However I always was her "protector". From bullies in school to ex boyfriends when she became 18. Now we are both in our 30's.
I never thought of her as a woman till a few months ago, but at some point I did. I did shared my feelings, she did comment that she sees me as a brother but her behavior became extremely flirty. With her touches, the way she dresses when we are around, she is provoking alot, but when I try to show her that I am attracted sexually she always comments that she can't see me more then a brother. But a sister would never be so flirty with her brother.
At some point I asked her why are you playing with me, and she replied with this puzzle. "Is because I love to be chased, but this doesn't count, you are like a brother to me"........afterwards she did confessed that she would like me to photograph her lingerie....
I am kind of confused, any advice?? Thank you
It sounds to mf like she is confused as well. Maybe she did think of you as a brother until you voiced your feelings; but now that the option/possibility is there she is unsure how to act on it. She probably doesn't want to risk your friendship, hence the frequent references to "brother", but she is probably also enticed; obvious by her wanting you to take risque photos of her.
I would attempt a conversation and let her know that you can understand and accept being a "brother", but her flirting (examples) leads you to believe otherwise, and you feel maybe she is curious as well. Reassure her that no matter which direction y'all take, or don't take, the friendship is valued first and always. It's worth a shot, right?
I did, but still she is playing this game. I mean today she said that her kisses are passionate, I said so is mine, can you show me??She said yeah, I'll kiss you, and you'll kiss me, but only at the cheek...We kissed a few times and I did try to kiss her on the lips but she pushed me away...I asked her again to come clean but she didn't. (It comes to my mind what she said a few days ago, that she loves to be chased)
Doesn’t it concern you that she is in her 30’s yet she acts like she’s 17?
Clearly she is enjoying this teasing, but it’s really not fair to you, is it?
Stop chasing her. Let her know that you are looking for a mature woman to start a relationship with.
Date other women. You will find one who is more mature and knows herself better and does not need to act so insincere .
Yes, you are right, that's why I was straightforward on telling her that she is playing games. Now in this case the concept of stop chasing her doesn't quite apply here. Since we grew up together, so I can't just stop seeing her. Even if I do date other woman we will still see each other alot.
It sounds like she likes the attention from you. But teasing you a bit as its fun for her. Please try to focus your attentions on someone else
What is your definition of “seeing” each other? Come on, be truthful here!
You two are getting close enough to physically touch each other and to speak of this issue of intimacy. That is more than “ seeing” someone.
For your own good, that has to stop. Walk out of the room. Leave the house. Remove yourself from her company. That should be easy for you to do
UNLESS you are enjoying all this teasing.
In which case, expect no solution. She is taking Away valuable time from you.