Boyfriend pressuring me to marry
My bf is telling me to set a wedding date in the next 2 months. Seeing each other 1 year and while things are great I thought we’d live together first. The problem with that is that we live 100 miles apart and he cannot work remotely. Before he said he’s willing to sell his business at home, he wants to have a firm commitment including marriage. Does not feel comfortable selling his home and business if we just live together. He’s also seems insecure in terms of what my intentions are. Well I do sometimes take too much time to make decisions this particular decision is obviously critical. the only other time I was married was for almost 28 years I lost my husband to cancer about eight years ago. Therefore, I do not take these matters lightly . He said he is tired of coming down on weekends and having to leave and that should be together all the time. The other wrinkle in the fabric is that my daughter is getting married in the fall 2021 and I think I feel awkward getting married before her. What do I do?
At the end of the day, nobody sets a wedding date unless it's mutual, which is what most couples who are in love do. You need to be sure about this guy. He comes across as somewhat controlling and while you have your opinion about marriage based on your history, he has a different slant on things which revolves around security and money. That fact that your BF travels continuously to be with you on weekends should give you an idea of his commitment but he needs to understand where you're coming from and you need to be able to step away and see things clearly and make a decision before you marry this guy.
Asked to give up his business, home, and move? Yes, I’d say those are major requests that warrant a strong commitment.
Why does HE have to be the one to make these major changes?
Sell both homes and move where he can still work. If you can’t give up your home, then you are not ready for marriage.