Break up with her?
So I’ve been dating this girl for a month and a half. First date, we had sex in her car on the side of the road at 4 am. As the days go by we spend time with each other talking about our lives and experiences.
She revealed that she once went to a strip club with her friends and got drunk, got on the pole, and stripped for tips. As the weeks move along she tells me she loves me and that she’s madly in love with me. She also revealed that she has intentions of meet ups with her ex husband as friends and remains friends with another ex boyfriend who she intends to spend quality time with.
The other day, I invited her to my birthday party at a family members house. She got drunk and flashed her breasts in front of my family and friends.
Week later, she got drunk at a restaurant bar, yelled at me, ran off and I had to take care of her and get her home. She threw up then passed out on the floor.
The next day I confronted her about her behavior in a very calm relaxed manner expressing my concerns. I told her to take some time to process this and contact me once you have.
Here’s where is been fishy. I’ve texted her once per day and she doesn’t respond to me. I feel like I’m chasing a lost cause and my heart is hurting from this. I’m torn to wait it out and see if she comes around to see if we can make this work OR tell her we’re no good together and move on. She has been ignoring me since I brought up my concerns. I need some advise.
You guys aren't on the same page. She has her values and goals while you have yours and to get on, you guys need to share them. Her behavior, especially her drinking, is a cause for concern which changes her for the bad, but it also tells you who she really is. She doesn't need to change for you, you basically have to accept her for who she is and if you find this a difficult thing to do, then you know where it's going to end up. Your gut is telling you that it's a lost cause and you need to listen to it, rather than to your heart.
Update: broke it off with her
I second that motion!
And KEEP running!
Unless you're particularly into dating Jerry Springer guests or people with a (I suspect/identify) Cluster B personality disorder?
This young (er) woman's behaviour is DIS-GUSTING! Has she no self-respect?! AT ALL?!
You're not the doctor, Jamie. Tempting though it is if you're the morbidly curious type who can't quite believe this piece of work could be for real? Oh she's for-real, alright. And that's her BEST foot forward! Imagine her Neutral or Worst.
(Just making sure you don't crack and go back...because too many do...... Come back and report to us if she starts Hoovering you (go Google). And, btw, what she was doing by not responding is called giving you The Silent Treatment - again, Google is your friend.
Also google No Contact and (or 'versus') Grey Rock.)
(Quick interjection, apologies Jamie)
Dear Susiedqq and Manalone,
I'm so delighted to see both of you still posting, and so profusely.
You two are SAINTS - do you know that?
Thank God for you.
(Sorry, had to be said. Cringe and blush, quietly over there, please ;-))
But anyway, Jamie, back to you:
Well done for being so strong as to say NO to the Salmonella-ridden but tempting-looking cream cake!