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My wife has a crush

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S-e-x advice Actually, I think she has had a crush for longer than she admits. My wife and I have been married 4.5 years now and she recently told me that she thinks about this guy sometimes when we have sex or she plays with a toy. My wife is a few years younger than I am. We have a active and I think good sex life aside from the recent admission that she thinks of this guy. I'm sorry if this is rambling and long but to fully understand there is a good deal of information. When My wife was 14, she started baby sitting for a friend of her mom's who had 5 year old son. My wife is still a good friends with the Mom of the then 5 year old. The 5 year old is now a grown man and has an oil field job that requires long hours of very physical labor. The guy is in good shape. It is this guy that my wife has recently stated that she thinks about during sex. My wife and I stopped by her friend's house (this guy's mom) and He was there briefly. Might be just because I now know that she crushes on him but My wife seemed turned on and spent a little too long in the hug when he hugged her hello. He left shortly after we got to his mom's. We had a nice visit but His mom said something that sticks with me . She told my wife that when her son was about 12 or 13... she learned that he had a huge crush on my wife who was by then hitting her 20s. The Mom had this slight grin and a mischievous sparkle about her. I could not help but think this woman somehow knew my wife has a crush on her son.
I have been very upset. I know that this could end with my wife checking and me being unknowingly cucked. It might be something that neither of them act on. I have thought about what I would do if they do act on it. I don't think that I would be happy if they had an affair behind my back but I know that I would not want a divorce. One part of me recognizes that right now it is a fantasy and fantasies seldom play out as exciting and as fun in real life as they do in one's head. So I could just roll with it, accept that they are attracted to each other and likely to hook up and be a some what willing cuck . This could let them get it out of their system...but I just don't know. I know that I love my wife and I know my wife loves me.

My wife has a crush

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This “grown guy” probably has a GF and there’s going to be nothing happening about this. Except fantasy. You don’t mention anything else going on in the background.

I wonder what your wife’s motive is to talk about him to you. That’s girl talk with her best friends, not something to dangle in front of her husband.

Is she trying to make you jealous? Are you turned on that she fantasizes about someone else?

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As per, Susie's hit the nail RIGHT on the head!

I'd just add - or, option C, is she trying to make you join a gym?

That's not the way a grown woman would go about it, though (wielding the Sword of Damocles, go google, in the form of this Master Muscle). Her way is cruel and bound to make you insecure and obsess, tantamount to being told NOT to think of a Pink Elephant - only, deeply hurtful and anxiety inducing.

I feel for you. But we've all been there. And we all survived.

Response to Susiedqq, please.

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Well that's no way for a grown woman especially a wife to be acting a fantasy is one thing but then again fantasies can be dangerous especially if they act on it. But that's beside the point you shouldn't be ok with the fact that your wife and the other guy are attracted to each other your wife is totally disrespecting you big time from reading your story it sounds like there both laughing at you and playing you for a fool excuse my comment. Why I said that because you haven't literally kicked his you know what. I mean what if it was the other way around how would she feel about it??? Maybe you should ask your wife that???

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