Hurt me with words
Been married 24 years together 28. Husband had prostrate taken out 4 years ago so as to use a pump. We recently had sex without the pump and I gave him oral, I sat on him and he came and thanked me for it. I felt so hurt and angry. I said it made me feel like a prostitute or one night stand and he said what's wrong with thanking me for sex because he enjoyed it. I have cheated on my husband quite a few times and some of the men have thanked me after sex and with my husband saying it it made me feel like he was just like them. Like I was a one night stand or prostitute. He as never thanked me for sex before. I went into another room and he didn't come to see how I was or talk. He said because I had told him I felt like a one night stand or prostitute and he knew I would start going on about when I have cheated on him and I would lash out at him. I felt he didn't care at all by not coming in to see how I was and this is a man who says he only wants me no one else so why say what he did. I give him oral alot and we have regular sex. If he had just said he enjoyed it or that was lovely it would of been ok but to thank me seems degraging. He said whats the difference with saying Thankyou which is just the same as saying that was lovely or he enjoyed it. Does anyone else thank there partner for sex at all and if you do why do you say it.
My boyfriend has thanked me after sex since we first started having sex. I don't take it personal.
side note: it's not his responsibility to make you feel better, it's really yours. If you work on feeling good about yourself regardless of what he does or doesn't do, you'll find you wouldn't have these feelings.