Why does my girlfriend make me sit on the ground in front of her?
First off, I'd like to give some context. I am 19 and about 6'1 while my girlfriend is 18 and 5'7. I'm not submissive, and I've had multiple girlfriends in the past meaning that I'm not desperate. However, recently I've begun dating this relatively quiet girl who was pretty hot. At first things started really slow but she soon started opening up to me and our relationship reached a personal level.
Recently, whenever we are alone together she requests that I sit in front of her on the floor while she is on the couch. At first I would have none of it but she pleaded with me so I eventually gave in. As I sit on the floor, she places her feet on me (usually on my shoulders) and makes no comment. I'd push them off and she'd just place them back on. In the end, I let her keep them there. Don't get me wrong, her feet are clean and if she was doing this to be degrading I would have sensed that immediately and took off, but isn't the behavior a bit strange?
None of my other girlfriends would do the same, some would simply place their feet in my lap but that's completely different. So anyways, later on she would begin to put her feet on my head and finally my face where she would start giggling upon doing so. I thought that it was cute so I'd let it pass. Recently though, she has been making me lay down in front of her as she rests her feet on my body (usually my face). Naturally, I am a bit aroused by it as it is physical contact, but I feel a bit ashamed as my image means a lot to me. In public, she never displays any signs of being dominant and she always hugs on my shoulder in a feminine way. Is this normal, should I make her stop, and what should I do?
I will say this is the weirdest thing I have EVER read in a relationship room...and I don't mean to lol....but OMG...
This is something .....If your ok with this..and you feel comfortable with her...maybe eventually you can ASK HER...how this sort of "fetish" started for her....I really don't know what else to say....it does seem like a sort of a fetish....
It does sound like you are moving now more towards being a little irritated by this....and you shouldn't feel ashamed...maybe you feel ashamed because you are doing something your really not wanting to do?
I would say nah..I'm not going to do that..tonight. Tonight I am going to sit next to you with my arm around you because I like you....or something like that and see how she reacts...If she gets "mad" or anything there is a real like psychological problem...or something....Keep us posted....I'm very interested in how this proceeds....
I really dunno, it happened in the middle of the moment and she does it in such a playful fashion that I overlook it easily. I'm getting kinda into it and just today she slid off of the couch while she was doing it on to me and we had sex. I'm fine with it now ig lol
LOL...I still want you to ask her if this is a thing someday and then post it.
It sounds like she is not respecting your wishes. If my boyfriend asked me to do something... I would do it....we are together for HEALING.
Respect is a fundamental attitude. When we have to ask for respect will we receive it or will one action be changed?
Look into your experiences together to see if she has naturally shown respect in other ways. This situation could just be a silly thing, but if she is the kind of woman that tells other people nice things about you and keeps the not so nice things secret, or if she gives you space when your friends are over and makes you look good by complimenting you and catering to you, or if she helps you grow and see truth instead of laughing at you when you make a mistake...these are just a few signs of sweet respect.
There are all different kinds of ways people show love.... you have to decide what is sincere in her.