How can I find a 25-35-year-old woman who wants to travel the world??
WORLDTRAVELER - Sep 25 2020 at 21:09
Ok, so I'm a single male bachelor, in my early-50's, good-looking, in good health, and quite wealthy. I want to find a young woman who would like to travel and see the world (probably most women would fit this description, no?) with me paying all the expenses (sounds great, right?). Will there be romance? Maybe, but only if we both want it.
The problem is, I am only interested in women in their 20's and early 30's. And most (but not all) women of that age are looking for men about the same age (or maybe just a bit older).
Still, it must be the case that young women exist who would jump at this opportunity. The question is, how do I efficiently find such women and then screen them? Ideally I would place an advertisement somewhere -- but where? I don't want to use an online dating site or Tinder because then my photograph would be visible and this would be a problem if family or colleagues discover it (the "dirty old man" stigma), and anyway most of the women on those sites are not interested in older men. The "older men / younger women" dating sites aimed are all scammy and fake.
Any thoughts to help me solve this problem would be appreciated. (And if you feel I need to adjust my preferences, please don't bother responding).
Im just thinking damn...wish I was in that age group...I would be willing to "try" this...LOL.
So..you can't advertise you are "wealthy" anywhere because you will draw the scammers...I think you want to find someone who is generally interested in older men...which I am..I dated someone that was 11 years older than me...and until recently I always dated higher, just happens my current partner of 7 years is about the same age as I am :).
But, I don't think you have any other options except scoping the dating websites for someone you find attractive or whatever interests you are looking for "traveling" would be one....and reach out and DONT tell them you are wealthy because you said you are attractive so....reach out...and ask them if they are interested in dating an older man....if they say no....go to the next.
Just worried if you post you are wealthy like you did here...you are going to draw someone who may be disingenious...and I watch that show "Marrying Millions" there is a girl on the current episode that is genuinely in love with a much older man than she is....they ARE out there..and you may even attract someone on this site...I have seen a few girls typing about unhappy relationships...That's an IDEA...
The only problem I do see with this site thou is that...they don't have like a "private messaging" function so there is no way you can try and pick up someone here after reading posts where you think you might be a "fit"....Its a tough one...I think you have to stick with the dating sites is my short answer.
I hope you find what you are looking for...I want everyone to be happy.
Thank you so much for this very thoughtful response. What you write makes a lot of sense, and I truly appreciate your taking the time to write.
All the best to you!
Thank you for responding...I read alot about manifestation...it is a "new age" concept I guess...And what they say to do..to bring things into your life...that you WANT...Is to...many times throughout the week or day...get to a quiet place and really "envision" what your life will be like when you find this person.
Really PUT YOURSELF in the scenerio...feel the feelings you would feel, envision the places you would travel too..even envision the type of woman you want and what she looks like, smiles like, feels like....really "feel" it and it is said you can MANIFEST the life you want ....
Good luck...If you find someone in the future and you remember this website...Let us know...LOL
That's a very interesting concept, Misssy2, manifestation. I will definitely look into that! Ironically, because I worked really hard for 25 years, I pretty much have everything I want in life (financial independence, good health, good friends) EXCEPT for the sort of woman I want. What's sort of tragic is that everything is finally in place for me to make the right woman very happy, but I can't find her.
To be transparent, I already tried using the dating websites like you suggested and messaging women who I found attractive. Whereas 20 years ago, I had lots of responses, now that I'm in my 50's I've been universally rejected by the women in their 20s and 30s. Which I guess is not surprising: I read somewhere that over 99% of women are looking for someone within 5-7 years of their own age.
So it's really a tiny needle in a huge haystack. I was just hoping there would be a more efficient way to find the tiny needle!
If you think your NOT going to find it you wont....envision you HAVE...and see what takes place..unfortunately the dating sites are your only option because I think outside the box and would certainly tell you if there was another option...I don't see one..so keep drudging along...and manifest your needs...your not dead so there is hope..
All else fails I'm 56...I would take a wealthy dude... I have a nice personality and attitude..LMAO.. really joking in a fantasy world of having a rich person..but I would not do well with that lifestyle..I'm super simple..so just joking. But certainly when I was 25...I would take you up on this and I am not the only one in the world that would...so keep trying.
I know what it is like to want what you want...and you will get it if you believe YOU WILL.
I believe you will...
And I also want you to get what you want in this lifetime...not because your wealthy but because you WANT LOVE...LOVE is the best thing and we all need it.
Don't give up :).
Wow this kinda posts are new :)
Well from a girl from the age group that your looking into and that is currently dating an older guy, I can tell you finding it goes both ways.
My bf and I met through a dating website, 7 years ago. I guess we just clicked. I wasn't looking for something in specific but both wanted stability.
That kind of relation that feels good coming home to.
We live together and we have traveled a LOT! And it's so good. Such nice memories.
But finding a person like this is... hard... Noone of us is wealthy. We work a lot.
I don't think it's something you should mention like ever to anyone, if you really want to find
a person that will love you for what you are.
Just try to find a cool website. And start searching. :) Maybe you can both be lucky. If you find a person you like just ask them if they like the ideia of traveling together.
Thank you for all the positive thoughts and suggestions you have sent my way. I'm sending positive karma your direction. If you were 25 and single, oh the places we would go!! :)
Thank you for your thoughts, it sounds like you have found "the one". Someone like this is very precious, so hold on to them and tell them you love them every day. Life has its ups and downs and relationships can face many challenges.
All the best to both of you!
I'd love this. The only thing that would put me off is not your age but actually the fact that you'd be paying for me, a complete stranger, paying for me to travel the world. Yeah I'd feel a little controlled, possibly a bit like I owed you something.
May I ask why you don't have a family member or friend you'd like to do this with?
Why specifically a female of that specific age?
Hi IAM_ME, thanks for writing. I totally understand what you're saying about someone in that situation feeling a little "controlled". I get it. So I guess this sort of experience wouldn't be for everyone. But I'd expect (or hope) that feeling would wear off once it becomes clear that I happen to *enjoy* spending money to go places and enjoy adventures with a fun travel companion. So it's a win-win.
Why a female of that age range, and not a family member or friend? Because ideally there would be romance (even if it was mild), and like I said I happen to be attracted to women in that particular age range. We wouldn't be total strangers, by the way. There would first be a few months of "getting-to-know-you" by Zoom or Skype etc before we jump on a plane.