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Relationship advice "I don't see why we can't just relax and continue
No big deal"

This is his answer, I'm confused, what does it mean?

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Well I don't know it either.

Can you explain what's going on between you?

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I asked him if he wants to continue the relationship or not cause for me I want to but if your not, I respect it.

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Yea, sounds like YOU want to be "committed" and he doesn't....:(
I was always told to ask if we are committed to each other after about 1 month...of seeing each other so that I know where a relationship is heading....and every person I have asked...has said YES we are committed...Which means no other partners....and that we are going to do our best to make our relationship work.

The answer you received tells me he is not "committed" to this relationship and now I feel like you are SETTLING.
Are you ok to move on from this relationship based on the fact he will not commit to you? I would want you to leave it so you are not taken for granted and I would tell him...contact me again when you are ready to be in a committed "relationship" because that is what I PREFER.

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That’s “Man Talk” for “Everything is fine with me. There will be no changes. Just accept it the way it is.”

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MISSSY2-> Honestly, I'm not yet ready to move on cause I still love him but I think it's best for me since he didn't text me until now after I replied on that message. Don't have courage to tell him "when you're ready to be in a relationship contact me again cause that is what I prefer".


SUSIEDQQ-> So, he wants me to accept the fact that he is not committed and I should be not committed on our relationship too, cause he is okay with everything. 😔 So sad.

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Well he did say to “continue“ it. But I have a feeling it’s going to be on his terms. He’s not going to make a big deal of it.

Why don’t you just take this one day at a time.? He sounds like he doesn’t like to be pressured.

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Yes, he said that, and what you feel is the same of what I feel. I don't know what it is and I just don't know how to ask him without feeling pressured or get mad.

I didn't pressured him but it's not okay, not to communicate for about 1 week and half or 2 weeks, that's why I think differently. I take it one day at a time but it's hurt

I don't know what to do honestly.😔

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