Worried about my friend
Hello, well i wont take up too much of your time im just worried about one of my close friends.
Shes gotten herself involved with a married man, he is clearly using her for sex, he gives her money and she says the arrangement works.
However i know who this bloke is and his wife and it would cause a huge uproar in the local town if she found out about it.
She has 2 young children and im worried about her, shes not herself lately, her family have said shes been very distant.
I dont want to talk to her about it too much as she goes off in a huff.
thanks any advice would be appreciated
Yeah, it's all good to be worried about your friend, but it's her business what she does and going by your post, that's the way she wants it to be. You can tell her how you feel about her behavior and the consequences, but it's her life to lead and all you can do is sit back and watch or distance yourself completely from it all. There's no 'if' about it when it concerns the wife finding out, because she will eventually. Two young children should be your close friend's priorities rather than a married guy, but that's her lookout to sort, just as the guy will have to sort his need to betray his wife and eventually pay for it in more ways than he is now.
All you can do is be there when she falls.
I think if this is a real good friend, how can you not tell her that this man is married? Can you tell someone in her family, or, take another trusted friend/family member with you and approach her together? She will eventually find out, and when this happens, how will she view your friendship then? You have to weigh the consequences out. Is it possible that she already knows hes married, but just hasnt said anything, fearing your reaction?