Is it a form of cheating or not?
Would you consider it emotional or a form of cheating when a man starts a relationship with you while still having feelings for his ex-girlfriend? In addition, he comments with hearts and flames on his female friends Instagram pictures which are very sexual, meaning showing their naked butts and naked breasts. He would never leave a comment under his girlfriends pictures which are non-sexual. He would also delete all their text messages between them on his phone. Please tell me what you think!
The guy comes across as a player and you need to ask yourself if you need to involved with him at all, regardless if he still has feelings for his ex. All of his actions play havoc with your emotions, so why bother with him. Ask yourself what sort of a guy do you need to be with and then stack this guy up against those standards and compare them.
I am in love with someone, if he left me I would would still be in love with him. The only way I could really let go is if I finally allowed myself to develop feelings for another. So, in essence I would be in love with my ex while starting a new relationship with another. But there would be a point where my new boyfriend would be all I think about and if I thought of my ex it would be to hope that he is healthy and happy. That would never end.
This is a reflection of love, true love.
Being with you while looking at other girls tells me that he is a child that isn't honest with himself. Have you seen THE WOMEN with Meg Ryan? It is about how men are puppies that need to be trained. He has developed a habit that he has to believe is bad. He has to realize not only how he is effecting you but how he is effecting his own mind. These photos shouldn't matter to him but by connecting to them he is growing the importance of them in his mind making it difficult for him to choose what can lead up to true love. He is taking one path and he won't be able to find the other.
Don't get angry or emotional, just say that you need a break from the relationship because you are not comfortable with his choices. Then move on with your life, if he loves you he will change and come back to you as a better man. It is important that you don't get angry, he is human, he is making a mistake, its a mistake that most men make on some level. This is the time that you take the sweet caring but firm motherly role, it will help him grow.