Jealous of his ex?
My husband is a wonderful person who has always treated me well. This is my major insecurity causing me to feel down. Several years ago (before we were married), one of his ex's came up. We were with his friend and they were discussing hot celebrities. His friend mentioned that one celebrity reminded him of my then bf's 1st ex, how attractive she was. My bf agreed with him and I was a little shocked and hurt. Not for his friend calling her hot, but for my bf not shutting down the conversation then and there. Or him saying well that doesn't matter cause gf is the hottest, dumb and petty I know, but still. She came up again when he was talking about his brother being attracted to her, saying what guy wouldn't want to date her.
I'm mad at myself for allowing something like this to keep bothering me. Definitely doesn't help that he said early on in dating he had a specific type which isn't me at all. Also at some point he told me he learned looks aren't everything, but he got lucky with me. Still bugs me though as he hasn't dated an average looking woman with a great personality. He did date an average woman, but she had her own set of mental issues. Due to this many times when he does call me pretty, sexy etc, I have a hard time believing him. I'm so paranoid that he settled for me. Thoughts? Btw he regrets not stopping that conversation and didn't think it could annoy me that much.
I will give you the "Man" side of this lol. We as men are honestly not that manipulative (in general). If he calls you sexy, he means it. Don't push your insecurities on him.
As for saying his ex was/is attractive....have you ever heard the saying "no matter how beautiful a girl is, somewhere there is a man that is sick of dealing with her shit" lol. A girl can be pretty and at the same time 100% unattractive to a man. Personality accounts for a lot.
He probably shouldn't have said what he did. But he married you. Obviously, he chose you.