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Help me to stop wanting to seduce my coworker

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Ok. I have a coworker who is in a sense my boss and I am extremely attracted to him. Many girls are, he is gorgeous and muscular, and somehow he doesn’t seem to realize the power he holds over women bc he is shy and raised in a religious home. I’ve tried the trick of imagining him doing disgusting human things to get over his sex appeal, like him pooping/smelly farts/stinky feet or something but that just makes him sexier and adds a kinky dimension to my obsession with him. I’ve tried ignoring him at work but when I have all coworkers around me get silent and it’s so awkward because I think they are sensing my pheromones which are enough to power an atomic bomb. I’ve tried talking to him and nicely telling him he’s attractive and could be with any woman he chooses and I know some beautiful women I could set him up with, because if he’s taken and happy, I think I could feel better about leaving him alone out of respect. I’ve tried imagining that he’s the worst lover I’ve ever had but then it turns into ...well he can just lie back and let me school him as the dark temptress I am kind of thing. He’s that gorgeous. And there are good looking guys everywhere but this one seems to enjoy my eye fucking him and there are silent intimate staring at each other moments. So please, tell me what I haven’t tried and can do, because I don’t want to lose my job or hurt this guy and his life.

Help me to stop wanting to seduce my coworker

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I can only assume you're an adult. That being the case, grow up and leave the poor guy alone. The only thing you can control is yourself, so control yourself.

Help me to stop wanting to seduce my coworker

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Harder said than done, I’m a passionate Scorpio woman, but I appreciate the strongly worded advice.

Help me to stop wanting to seduce my coworker

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Is there something holding you back from acting on your crush for this man? Are you married? Is he married? If not then be a big girl and ask him out for coffee or lunch. (This is assuming of course that it’s not against your company rules to date a coworker.)

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A passionate scorpio woman that doesn't like to take accountability for her actions? Don't blame an astrological/horoscope sign for bringing impropriety into the workplace, which could end with you both being fired.

Help me to stop wanting to seduce my coworker

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Hey Rose, It seems to me that you are entering what's called a compulsive sexual behavior. Don't worry you are not alone on this. Has this happened before? I think that if you having difficulty controlling your mind you should go to counseling, before you act improperly on your workplace.

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