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Hi I have been with my partner 7 months. I see he has watched porn and I don't want that in my relationship. I think it best to separate which is a shame. We have talked about it and he said its no big deal he can't see why it should be. He dies not do it much. But I don't like it as it najes me see images if him in my head enjoying that and I kniw we are fine in our relationship but it's what he's done before being with me on his own and he's still looking at it so I don't feel that close to him much now. I think I should break up but I just wonder how others see this. Does it make them feel uncomfortable like I do and wonder if he actually cares as much for me?

Partner secretly watches porn

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Personally, I don't find it offensive. I actually also watch porn, and my bf does the same yet we have no issues with each other. And it's pretty commonplace for men to watch porn anyways since they think with their lower head most of the time hahaha We've also watched it together at one point and its interesting to find out what his tastes are, but my bf has never compared me to the girls in porn or ever made me feel self-conscious about my own body compared to theirs. Learning about your partner's sexual preferences may even bring you both closer/make you more intimate. (SN: mad respect for the women working in that industry, it can be emotionally/psychologically draining for them) I understand if porn makes you uncomfortable. It's not for everyone. If he watches porn but still sees you as the beautiful person that you are AND gives you the love that you deserve, then why break up with him over it? If you're sexually comfortable with each other, why not trying out one of his 'fantasies' or preferences. Also, maybe ask yourself why exactly you find porn uncomfortable? Hope I made sense 😅

Partner secretly watches porn

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Maybe he has a higher sex drive than you do. Could be using porn as a way to deal with his needs, when you aren't interested.

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Hi I we have sex nearly every day.. I do alot for him and its fine. I know all about porn I don't like it that he watches it behind my back and even though hasn't denied it he said he hasn't looked for a long time yet it shows just 1 week ago he did. I know there are blokes out there that are just happy enough with the woman they are with without needing porn. I prefer to be one of those because also it makes me feel he could be unfaithful or wanting someone else as porn is the visual thing they get off on of another woman to watch and I am not here to fall back on or worry he could be unfaithful and start chatting up someone else maybe online. Actually I don't want it in my life as I get older and he still watches younger girls. I think for me I wiuld rather be single than put up with this in our relationship.

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I understand this may make you feel uncomfortable, But the question is why, does it route down to personal insecurities (does he find the women he’s watching more attractive, does he prefer it etc) I wouldn’t give up on the relationship because of this one problem though, I advise you sit down and talk to your partner about this, explain to him how it makes you feel. You never know the simple reason like the above comment could be he has a higher sex drive? Question to also ask yourself Is he watching porn but not interacting sexually with you? If this is the case then you have to find out why, again talking to your partner would be the best option for you.

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We both have the same sex drive. He's done this before I knew him. He's quite open and light hearted about it. But I am finding him a bit of a bore as he sits looking at the Internet on his lap everyday and night in between bits and pieces and talks only about his hobbies of mechanical type etc. And if I say something he's not that bothered and keeps it short. He's quite selfish tbh. Anyway. I've just gone up to see him as he was asleep for a few hours from a late eve and now awake, so I got in bed to cuddle hkm and he's smiling saying he's awake now and I've woke up having a hard on as I've had a naughty dream.. Not about me or he'd have said.. He's quite boyish and it can be fun. But it can also be hurtful at times in ways that he will joke about things that he may not like about me or anything then tell mehe didn't mean it like that or turns it round on me. He's hard work at times. I think I am getting bored of no real normal conversation about anything to do with me. He is usually flippant about me. No one coulc handle all this. I am not happy to break up now in the middle of covid we both will be lonely. But I am more fed up sith him now. He's very atteactive lovely physique. I am fine too. Its not about looks. Its just I don't think I can cope I am feeling quite low tbh.

Partner secretly watches porn

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PS apologies spelling I didnt check...

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This is more than about the porn. He seems self-centered and immature. You have discovered that sex can’t keep a relationship together and it’s more than about the guys looks. You keep building your case about why you really deep down would prefer to get away from him. Unfortunately you may be trapped because of Covid in your living situation.

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