Preparing for boyfriends release
MJSM - Jan 24 2021 at 08:53
Hello. My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months and he gets out in 4. We met while he was inside and the closer it gets the more anxious i feel. We talk about it but i think its a risk. I dont really know what to do. He seems kind of reassuring but idk. I use to say if he gets out and ghosts me I will deal with it but now being in it if he did that I'd lose it. I have done alot for him. Anyway thanks for hearing me out. Please do not judge me as I am aware its a unconventional relationship.
Regardless of where & how you met, ask yourself why you feel anxious about his release. If you feel you can't trust him now, how will you trust him to do the right thing when he's a free man. Follow your gut & listen to the vibes, rather than his words, that you're getting from him now. 10 months is early days for a relationship in any circumstances & particularly one as unique as yours is.
Thank you for your comment number one. I am nervous i know because covid has kept me from visiting him. So all we have are video visits, calls and emails. So I think its just a matter of if that connection and chemistry we have now will be the same. I agree to listen the vibes and following my gut. When he gets out it will be a little over a year at that point
I think it's normal for you to feel anxious about it. You're essentially in a long distance relationship with this guy, and no matter what most people the dynamic of your relationship from how it is now will be way different when you get to actually be around him. However, what doesn't change are the things that you like about him that has kept you by his side. Those are the things you should focus on. You don't know how he'll adjust to life outside and how that may affect him. but you do know that you like this guy for whatever your reasons are, and that's enough to trust him and see how it goes. Frankly, if he is a good guy who is worth being in a relationship with, then at some point-maybe not right away-but at some point he will understand the sacrifice and commitment you have given to him and show you how grateful he is by being a good boyfriend to you and treating you right. Trust in what you have, it will provide a solid foundation for your future. Good Luck.
Wow. Thank you so much for that. I feel like because of my past i look for the bad things and leave no room for him to make mistakes. I do love him and when its good its good. I am definitely going to trust in what we have and that he knows I am a good person and how much I love him. Heres to a great future. Thank you again. :-) (A)