Is what happened at previous job discrimination, harassment, or abuse?
GREEN123 - Feb 27 2021 at 15:45
6 months ago I chose to transfer to another department. A colleague asked what happened to me was discrimination.
Story: For a yr, was me director & secretary that started right after me. Director switches from overly friendly to yelling and critical, at that point mostly overly friendly.
Dept. expanded, She hired 3 people all the same gender&race/ethnicity as her.I was in interviews & others had equal or greater qualifications than those she selected. I was the only male & only one of my ethnicity. The secretary was older female a different race than others.
Director moved me to the worst most remote office & her sorority sister got mine. I had no restroom close by & it was in terrible shape.
She’d give negative feedback to me verbally but evaluations were always good. if I got praised from other departments she would be furious. If we went to meetings and I knew people she would get angry. Once she said secretary & I were conspiring against her.
She made staff text everyone when we went to lunch, arrived, were late etc.
Once she yelled at me that I didn’t text that I as going to be late only when I arrived I had to send her a screenshot w/ timestamps. She would berate secretary in front of others. Once newest hire made a comment about how different she acted to me and secretary. Director fired the secretary & had a meeting to tell staff.
I finally told her I had put in for a transfer.She said” if that is what you want to do, I won’t say anything bad about you.”Thoughts?
Just to give a little more information, I never had this problem anywhere else I’ve worked I’ve been in the current department for six months now and I haven’t had this issue & I actually deal with more supervisors now not just one. The negative comments were not about my work my evaluations were always good she couldn’t say I did a bad job or didn’t do my work. They were more personal things, example she would ask for ideas in regards to changing the policy changing of form setting up a meeting
She went on to say that if there was a meeting, attention needs to be on her never me.
Then after she moved me the remote office there was no restroom and I’d have to walk far in the rain to go to the restroom and she told me now I know how the women in hidden figures felt and it’s about time there was some justice.With secretary she would have her in tears call her names and humiliate her the a few days later bring her flowers or other gifts. It would happen .
I also don’t mention specifics to anyone at work except for the one new coworker who asked and is someone I’ve known for years and used to work with somewhere else entirely. The new position is a lot better and I do think the last supervisor had some issues.I never put in a complaint I don’t intend to put in a complaint and I’m not someone that has ever screen harassment discrimination etc. it’s just now that I’m gone and I look back I realize how toxic the environment was for me.
As I ask & write all this I think Im traumatized from this experience. I am not sure if it was discrimination, I have no doubt she felt more comfortable around people she perceived to be more like her.
She definitely had something against secretary and to a slightly lesser extent me, it wasn’t related to my work performance, I know that. I was just myself and I acknowledge I don’t do well with flip/flop personalities and hers is extreme. Super to an extreme almost manic nice or a Machiavellian tyrant.
To clarify I chose to transfer. A colleague in my current department that I have known personally for years asked me why I did I told the story and they said it could be discrimination. As far as the respite I was moved to a remote trailer/ portable and had to walk in rain and mud to get to restroom. She told me her sorority sister couldn’t get her hair and shoes wet as part of the rationale for moving to that office. I know I’ve asked this a few times, just want feedback.
Thanks, I documented all along but never went to HR it’s a big organization and maybe if I had left I would have but since I transferred I didn’t. I appreciate you talking the time to reply.
It is unbelievable what managers supervisors do and get away with. It is terrible. I wish you luck. A lot of good hard working people leave jobs because of horrible management.
Thank You. It’s much better for me now that I left that department.
Yeah, it was bullying, discrimination and victimisation with no grey areas whatsoever. HR should have dealt with it & it's all good to transfer, but it still leaves your ex director in a role which she's not suited for, for whatever the reasons. In the workplace, it's all about respect which flows both ways.
A true leader leads by example, while a manager simply uses company policy to enforce the rules. The biggest challenge is dealing with the different personalities and knowing how to get the best out of their fellow colleagues but that doesn't give a manager the right to abuse & threaten in an attempt to achieve that. Your ex director's issues are hers to sort and she quite likely has personal issues which she brings to her place of employment. When it's all said and done, she's in a role because someone higher put her there and that's where the toxic environment that you post about, has come from initially.
One things for sure, if you feel that you are traumatised by what's gone down, then you're 100% correct.
Thanks so much for the reply. I appreciate it, you hit the nail on the head she definitely had personal issues. She hated working from home. I am glad to be gone.