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My husband and myself live next to a woman who moved in about a year ago. we have been here nearly 2 years. A parcel was delivered for my husband when we stayed away in December last year and usually we leave a note on the door to say to leave it in our back garden if no one is in and to not leave it with neighbours. we had forgotten to put the note on the door and it got delivered there. we do not bother with this woman and I have no interest in her because one time my husband and myself where arguing and she knocked on the wall. Even if she hadn't done that I know I would never have bothered with her anyway as I am not interested in our neighbours whatsoever. now she as our parcel for the past 3 months and as not knocked with it or even left it on our door step which we would do if we had a parcel for a neighbour not that we would ever take any in for them anyway. now im wondering why she took it in the first place since we have nothing to do with her and why she as not even left it on our door step since she must realise we know she as it as the parcel man left a card with us to say where it was and he would of told her he had done this im sure. we both think she is a thief for keeping hold of it and not even returning it to the post office. I have suffered with anxiety for quite some time and now im wondering if this woman might know my husband like a ex girlfriend and that is why she as took the parcel in. we once drove past her in the car and we had to let her go past as the road was narrow for 2 cars to go past each other and I looked the other way as I knew it was her but im not sure if my husband did. according to him he said he did not look at her but could not look on the ground as he was driving even thou he was pulled over. so in my mind im wondering if my husband did take a look at her even thou he tells me he wants nothing to do with her and does not know what she looks like or give a damn about her. when my husband puts out the washing, our washing line is on a high wall and you can see her bedroom where she as always left the light on and the curtains open a lot and im sure my husband must of had a noise to see if he can see her and I don't want him even to look at her or acknowledge her but I cannot stop him if he does. it would be one in a million chance if she was a ex of my husbands living next door and I know we would move if she was. would he look at her just to see how she looks or if he did know her? the only time I saw her was in her garden and it was the back of her head I saw not her face and maybe deep down im worried that my husband might fancy her as she lives alone and I have never seen a man there. I start having a go at my husband if he goes into the garden because I feel he might look up at her window and see her and if he is not interested in her why would he do it unless he does know her and as kepted it from me as it would upset me.

Am I worrying to much

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You are acting super paranoid towards your husband. As for the parcel. Knock on her door and ask for it.

Am I worrying to much

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ALA Have you not read why I don’t want to knock on her door

Am I worrying to much

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If you want your parcel then you NEED to knock on her door and ask if she picked up your parcel for or contact the delivery company and ask them to follow up on it. It’s been almost three months now! As far is this woman and your husband are concerned, after two years you should know if they’ve got anything going on. It really doesn’t sound like it except in your own mind. What is going on in your marriage that you think your husband is so distracted by this neighbor? It might help if you talk to someone about this because it’s starting to take over your thoughts in a very unhealthy way and making you anxious. Don’t allow you imagination or fear run your life or wreck your marriage.

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