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A few years ago, I landed a job in an office, where the senior manager knew my partner. His deputy, the line manager running the team (Lisa), didn't seem too pleased, but called me two days later, inviting me to join her team. A few weeks later, after vetting and other checks, I started. The job wasn't difficult, so I got the hang of it. Lisa began warming to me, to the point that she was happy to fetch me a coffee when she was getting herself one. I also got on with the rest of the team. My wife was working as a business manager at a school, but wasn't getting home until 6pm during the week. We were not getting on very well; she had issues with the Headteacher, and I had suggested she had a meeting with her to resolve matters. My wife didn't want to lose her job, so she allowed the Headteacher to dominate her, and then came home and took out her frustrations on me. Lisa's usual clothing was a top and trousers look, but sometimes she would wear a knee length skirt or dress. One day she turned up in a figure-hugging mini-dress. During the day, I asked, rather cheekily "Are you going out after work?" She looked up from her work, smiled, and said, "No. I just needed a change. It's an older designer dress. My partner didn't notice me this morning." She looked at her VDU, then said, "But you did." She looked at me, slyly, and smiled. She was a petite lady, in her 40's (as I was). I thought she was quite attractive, although she appeared not to care about herself. On a team outing to a local cafe/bar a couple of weeks later, she wore figure hugging jeans and a buttoned top. I bought her a drink. She accepted it gratefully, and we started flirting. She admitted she had not seen her partner for three weeks because he had gone away to work. She asked what I was doing later. I admitted that I would be going home early, like everyone else. She asked where I was. I asked why? She indicated discretion. At 4.30pm, I had been home fifteen minutes. I heard the front door. It was her. Lisa walked in, and asked where the bedroom was. I suggested upstairs. We ventured forth, and got into bed, where we spent half an hour having a lot of fun. Lisa was happily tired from our activity, drank some water, and went home. My wife returned at 6.30pm in a foul mood, but calmed down when I said nothing, and made dinner. Lisa had her own house where I visited. Then, one day, Lisa went sick at work. Her boss suggested it was long term, because she couldn't give a date. I tried to contact her, but she didn't answer at first. A month later she contacted me; her partner had returned earlier than expected from his work project. She was so fearful of him knowing what had happened, she'd had a breakdown. I was sad, empathetic, and upset. I wanted to comfort her, but that would have been very bad for both of us. Four months passed, and there was little contact. Then, on a Monday, she was back at the office. By the Friday, we'd been with each other three times. She was very playful, very sexy, and had taken to going barefoot in the office because her legs drove me crazy. She had been riding horses whilst away, and was fit. Our sex was fantastic. Unfortunately, on the Friday, she told me her partner wanted her to relocate. She had discussed it with our senior boss. So off she went. I haven't seen Lisa for three years. Then, the other day, I received a private social media message from her, suggesting we meet up in April. My wife has moved in with her own widowed Mother after they had an argument over how she was treating me; she left the school job, and is now suing her old boss. She seems remorseful, but I've been living on my own, indulging my social media contacts, so the thought of Lisa returning is very appetising; apparently she left her husband because she wants freedom. Ongoing, it suits me, but I wonder if she will be mentally and physically okay?

I had an affair with my boss...

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Hey So let me get this straight. Your still married but you live in your own, and your wife leaves away? To me it appears that both of you have gone through a lot, in terms of relationships. Obviously, your relationship isn't ok. Otherwise you wouldn't look elsewhere. And when Lisa was suddenly there, and you where there to each other you both felt the connection. Still, we need to not only focus on ourselves and you need to make a choice. If you really care about your wife, maybe it's time to make a decision. And pick one. Seems like Lisa already did the exact same thing.

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My wife and I have separated, but I didn't want to go into detail on that. She's admitted that she's been very angry for a few years, but our issues have been verbal, not physical. She's not the same person I married. Indeed, it now turns out she had an affair some years ago with a mutual friend, but this happened whilst we were both working in London. Lisa's message was quite short, but very emotionally mature. She admitted she had a great time sexually, but she didn't think it would lead to something long-term. Now, she's had time away, and she missed our spontaneity; it was fresh and exciting. She wants something more now, and she's buying a flat in an area ten minutes drive from me. She is also beginning a new job in Insurance Services, which she can do from home. She has suggested that we get together as soon as the UK Government allows people from 2 households to mix. Personally, I'm looking forward to seeing her again, but I might have a problem. After writing my post above, I had a Teams interview for a job. The interviewer was a mature lady, and we got on very well. So well that she stood away from the screen and asked me how she looked. To be fair she has short white-hair, is about fifty five, and her outfit was a very slimming mini dress. I had to admit she looked fantastic. She typed a message suggesting that even if she could not offer me the job, why not meet up anyway? I was stunned, and flattered, and seriously thought I was being pranked. We ended the interview with me saying a tentative "yes." An hour later she messaged me with her details and asked if we could meet up in April. I really want to see Lisa, but I would like to meet this other lady "in the flesh too"! I think I'm being selfish, but I've been isolated for a long time, so...!?

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So here's the update. The interviewer, Jill, and I met up a couple of weeks ago, in her back garden. She lives half an hour away. Her back garden has an outbuilding. As soon as was safe to do so we repaired to there, and just made love on the wicker sofa she keeps in there. We both enjoyed the next couple of hours a lot. She has a nice body. Her partner died two years ago, and she hasn't had a male friend since. I've promised to see her again. Lisa turned up at my house two days after this. We chatted, I admitted I'd already had some fun that week, but she didn't care. She'd come to see me wearing a button through summer dress, and a pair of slip on ladies pumps. Basically we spent an entire afternoon making love. She wants to carry on, even suggesting that she meets my other new lady. Lisa always struck me as adventurous. Lisa is currently living a few miles away, so I'm looking forward to a fruitful Summer.

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