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I'm the victim but still I'm the bad guy

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I had this friend that I've helped so may times, in terms of money, moral support and more.. I didn't expect anything from her just because I helped her.. This is the problem one day she suddenly attacked me with hurtful words that I've become arrogant because I'm going to college and the college that I'm going to is making the students arrogant etc.. I didn't even save myself from her.. I didn't even said anything bad to her or even mock her.. I'm not that type of person who brags myself.. That was the last time I saw her.. and months later she already born her baby.. and the months later again she chatted me "how are u? Sorry about las time😅" I didn't respond to her because I don't know what to say... ( That was last year) Days ago she have multiple comments in a certain post in social media... She's relating it to herself... It's about a post of not getting to explain ur side and many people have anger to her... The second is a post about having a degree is a waste if u can't respect.. and she commented that "It's true, the others out there just because they are studying they are arrogant already, well good luck" I dunno but I can feel that her apology is not sincere and because I didn't respond she became angry about it and still thinks I'm arrogant and I'm the bad guy here.

I'm the victim but still I'm the bad guy

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Hopefully you can just let this relationship just fade away. You can do that by taking a break from social media for a while and cultivate your other interests. Stop thinking of your self as a victim. She revealed her true character and it’s good that you free of this person. She is like a pesky, spoiled child who is not getting the attention she thinks she deserves. Be thankful she can’t use you any more. You owe her nothing.

I'm the victim but still I'm the bad guy

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Why waste your time with her and wearing her insults. Your life is yours and if you want to study for a degree or whatever to better yourself, then that's your business. You've helped your friend in the past and if her actions and words tell you that it wasn't appreciated, and she doesn't value you, despite her apology, then move on with your head held high knowing that you have done her no wrong. Everyone's in charge of their own destiny, so move on with achieving yours and don't let others drag you down.

I'm the victim but still I'm the bad guy

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Thank you for your time to send some advice to me SUSIEDQQ and MANALONE.. really appreciated it.. thank you so muchhh I dunno but thinking that someone wants me to fall and breakdown in my life it makes me anxious... Ever since that comment of hers appeared in my timeline I always feel nervous.. Maybe because I stopped also studying and I might bump into her if I got some job in an open crowded workplace.. the whole time I'm feeling nervous this feeling is also the same when I was bullied wayback 2015.. I really don't know what to do now.. I feel like if she knows my status in my life now she might insult me again... I really don't get why did she suddenly treat me like that we're a good friends wayback then before she got a partner and got pregnant.. I really thought that if if she already have her baby she will become mature and stop doing things that might hurt others.. she even said with confidence that she's a prideful person wayback then

I'm the victim but still I'm the bad guy

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Yes, she is a bully. They try to control other people by threatening, with anger, blackmailing or teasing. Remember: She has NO power over you! She can not harm you in any way. She is pitiful because she is not getting your attention, so she attacks your accomplishments.

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