In December my boyfriend face timed me wearing a french maid's outfit I was shocked and surprised, he was made up,in stockings and suspenders and wig, he then masturbated, I had no idea!when we had sex he was in full drag and he has face timed me several times since in drag! I've tried telling him that I prefer him out of drag and he always says he's going to throw the stuff away and he only does it for me!last week he face timed again with a new purchase of a breast plate with realistic boobs!I don't like it, I just want 2 cry when I see him, especially when he wants us both to give a man a bj!he's 52 where will it end?is he gay?can he control it or will it start to takeover more of his life?
You either accept him as he is or you don't, because while he trusts you 100% to facetime you & act out his fantasies, he's unlikely to change. It's the shock of seeing the opposite of what you value and expect in a M/F relationship that sees you feeling the way you are. It's your choice whether you accept it, just as it's his to reveal it to you. You need to talk to him, because while he says he's doing for you, he's basically doing it for himself and expecting you to support him.
Thank you, you're right and it's because of that trust he's placed in me that has left me troubled. If the relationship was good then I could support him etc, but the relationship was awful before this, his mood swings, obsession with his ex, before lockdown we saw each other once a month. I'm 58 I wanted a proper relationship where we spent time together, met family and friends, travelled etc we 're totally incompatible, and yet I don't want him 2 think I'm rejecting him because of the drag
[We're totally incompatible) As you admit yourself.You must accept this. You really need to talk to him (as soon as possible) & it's also very important to mention,that, you're not rejecting him because of the drag.