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Am I just going through the motions?

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I broke up with someone after an intense 18 month relationship. He wanted to marry me and I didn’t see a future with him. That was a few months ago and I’ve been out with someone else. I like the new person but he isn’t affectionate except giving me a quick goodnight kiss. I myself can’t figure out if I want to sleep with him yet. I am attracted to him but not in a big way. I don’t know if I’m forging myself to go out because of loneliness or I really like him? How do I know?

Am I just going through the motions?

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Respectfully, you shouldn't be near anyone else unless you're over your ex completely. For all you know, this new guy could be sensing that you may be only half way there without you realising it yourself, and hence just going through the motions, as you post about. You need to take a couple of steps back from him and then see what your emotions tell you. You need to be kind to yourself while you sort your head and heal your heart and it's not really his responsibility to help you deal with your loneliness - it's yours and yours alone.

Am I just going through the motions?

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[it's not really his responsibility to help you deal with your loneliness - it's yours and yours alone.] yes,that's right. Having said that,once you've got your "head sorted" don't rely on your emotions. Take time (not to much!!) to decide what you want to do,though your final decision must come from your heart only.Make sure,too,that you're not wanting him just to heal your loneliness.

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