I need help handling my girlfriend problems on my head
Hello everyone, I´m here because I don´t have anyone to talk this without telling me "You should break up!, you will know better girls!" . So first thing first, I don´t want to break-up.
However, sometime i´ve got the sensation that it would be better... but I still don´t want to.
This is a long story, so grab yourselfs!
(There are somethings that I don´t remember, but still I want to tell the whole story)
I´ve been with my girl for 1 year and 2 months, and we still haven´t met, however, we´re planning to do it on the next year. The relationship wasn´t and isn´t easy, it all started bad, I met an alter ego of her, but some days later I found she wasn´t the real one and it was one of her personalities . She used to have multiple personalities beacuse she was raped for almost 4 years since she had like 8 years old by a member of her church. And she didn´t told that to anyone until years later. Then, I found that day that she wasn´t 18 like she was saying, she was 25 and had 3 kids with a guy that have been treting her horrible and manipulating her always. However, she doesn´t libe with him anymore.
There are some other things that happened,but the point I want to get is that she had a rough life
How did I still accpeted her after all of that? In those time I had some problems too, so just anyone that showed me some affection I just wanted to be with that person. So I told her that I loved her, that I will be with her forever and all of that.
So, she (my girlfriend, not her personality), started to showing me her world, and how she really was, and bit for bit I started really falling in love with her. The first 7 months has been one of the roughest months of my life, I needed to deal with her personalities, her depression, the fucking man, and also the thought that she need to take care 3 kids, and also that her mind and memory was really fucked up. Howver, there were a lot of happy times, and she gave me so so much.
I´ve been trough a lot, and I learned a lot, when the moths passed, she told me that she was finally happy wih me, and I´ve seen how she changed trough the course of the relationship, and that was a good thing, the bad things started to move away and I was "in peace".
And all was really good, until... today, yesterdy, she met an old friend in a store, and she told me he said "He will not forget the good things they passed", she was like WTF, and then she just started thinking, and was so confused but at the same time felt that something was wrong. Today, she visited her therapyst, and it was like a 3 hours -session. When she came out of the place, she was so bad, I thought it was something light that happened. But I was so wrong. She told me that she remembered everything, one day she fought with the fucking man, she visited her friend in a park, and she cheated the man. The thing... is that in the same year, she gave birth to her third child, and now everthing make sense... She feels so bad, dirty and everything, she feels I should leave her because I deserve someone better, however, I told her I would be there with her whatever happens.
I was strong for her, now she´s sleeping, and I feel really bad, sad, and hurted, I´m those type of guys that are jelous because of the past life (I know, I suck, I´ve been dealing with it and I´m better than before).And now I feel worse, I feel like those old days , and I thing this is another weight I need to carry.
I hope you undertood everything, I just need an advice, or something on how to carry this, how to be strong, how not to feel bad. I feel that I´m going down. But, I don´t want to leave her.
Please, help me.
Bro you are saying she is your girlfriend did she say the same thing for you ? i think you are being used by her and she involve you in her vacant moment just because she want to now she find other and no time for you keep in mind you are nothing for her but she is every thing for you!! you are the one that crazy for her not she is for you and she know that so my opinion is move on otherwise you are just a time pass for her .....
Have you actually seen ( video chat or some other way) this woman?
Why haven’t you met?
Her life story just seems to spiral down deeper and deeper - and all this is not good for you. (Unless you want this to be your “ life’s work”)
786 I´m not so sure about that, she also helped me with a lot of the staff i needed to deal, she was always there and of course, she always says she loves me, and I can feel that. Still, there´s a possibility that is the case your telling, I just don´t think it´s my case
SUSIEDQQ We have done videocall, we do it almost everyday, I know her life it´s hard, and maybe it´s not good for me, but I think with time, everything will be better.
my friend I am totally aggreged with "SUSIEDQQ" that she is not good for you but it's very hard for you to come out of her attraction but for me it seems like that woman just used you like he wanted too. now she found other and now she don't have any interest in you anymore try to forget her my friend for that you need her replacement mean find some other girl n live your life ... As soon as you accept that it's good for you
Wow, that is a lot to deal with. When you really need help, besides this great site. Ask and pray to God for guidance. Does this girl call you her boyfriend? She had a man in her life before. Did you really accept being the other man? You are selling yourself short. If she cares, she needs to say you are her boyfriend. Then it makes sense that you have spent so much time, caring, and love into it. Otherwise, if you’re not her boyfriend, then to her you will always be a good friend. You need to clarify this first.