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I just started dating a sweet, awesome girl. Any tips/advice?

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I (18M) work part-time as an elementary school librarian. For the past almost 2 weeks now, there's been a new girl in town, about my age, doing volunteer work at the school. AFAIK, she just goes around looking for people who need help and doing things with them, which is basically what I did the first few weeks I worked there. One day she came in and asked if I needed any help while I didn't have a class visiting, and I just let her hang out and talk story for like half an hour. We hit it off pretty good, and now she comes and hangs out with me almost every day. Let me tell you, she's been nice to have around. She's always got a pretty smile on her face and seems to like hanging around me. Plus, we have a lot of common interests, so there's plenty for us to talk about. And to top it all off, she's really pretty, and she has the cutest smile when I'm around her. There's also been a couple days where I've come in and found a bowl of chocolate chip cookies with a card from her with hearts on it on my desk. I just think that's sweet. Anyway, I'd been crushing on her for a while, so on Wednesday, I asked her if she wanted to go out on a date this Saturday, and she said yes! Well, I just got back from it, and let me tell you... it went AWESOME. I left the house around 12:00pm and went over to go pick her up from her place in my Saab convertible lowrider (top's busted though). She was wearing the prettiest yellow sundress and had her hair up in a nice ponytail. I gave her a plumeria flower to wear in her hair, and then we headed off. First we went down to the store to fill up my cooler with ice, snacks, and drinks, and to pick up lunch from the counter. Then, we went out to a longtime favorite beach of mine and spent the rest of the day there. We ate lunch and talked story for a while, then went swimming, then we went for a walk down the beach, then we rested and talked story some more, then we just kicked back and listened to music for a while (and I got to hear her sing, she sounds beautiful), then we went swimming some more, and finally we watched the sunset. As we were watching the sunset, we were sitting down on the ground next to each other holding hands. I told her today had been great and I couldn't think of anywhere else I would rather be right now. She said she also had a great time, and that she really liked being around me. We looked at each other for a bit until she decided to pull me in and kiss me! It was my first kiss with anyone in my life, and let me tell you, I ***ing loved it. We spent the next 20 minutes laying there on the beach kissing and making out passionately. After we were done making out, I decided it was time to go. I would've loved to stay for a few more hours, but was getting dark, and the area gets really dangerous at night with all the drug dealers and addicts running around. We drove around for a little bit before I dropped her off at home, and we shared another good night kiss before I left. Well today, she came in and gave me a good morning kiss at work, and I decided to ask if she wanted to go out to dinner for another date Friday after work, and she said yes. I'm taking her to the nice hotel restaurant downtown (the only real nice restaurant in this town). Let me tell you, I've never fallen for anyone like this before in my lifetime. I've grown up in this same rural small town of 7,000 people since I was 6 years old, and I've met pretty much all the girls around my age around here years ago. Yet not one of them ever gave me the same feelings I have for her, and none of them ever seemed interested in me either. Some of them are pretty, yes, but I've never seen any of them as anything more than a friend. Back when I was in high school and people would ask me if I had a girlfriend, I'd always tell them I liked the single life better and didn't want a girlfriend right now. Then all of a sudden, she comes to town, and I'm head over heels crushing on her. She gave me butterflies in my stomach and put a smile on my face whenever she came around. I was never too nervous to talk to her or anything like that, but I still felt something with her. Now we just started dating, and I couldn't be happier.  I'm starting to feel like such a sap, I was never this mushy/sappy before.

I just started dating a sweet, awesome girl. Any tips/advice?

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Well my friend 1st of all don't advertise your girl or feelings for others … Now please pay attention and read it carefully!! We all know that men and women handle various situations differently. So, when it comes to dating advice, what might work for women, might not work so great for the guys. We’re different, and those differences are what make our relationships fun and interesting… and kind of confusing sometimes. To help clear up the confusion, we asked different experts what they thought the best relationship advice for men was the things guys really need to know to understand women more and get the most of their relationships with them. Here’s the best relationship advice for men, according to experts across the field Let it go with the flow with honesty don't discredit her feelings. A lot of men tend to invalidate their partner's feelings. “Standup for her and others. talk about what's bothering you without wasting time because lot of men have in relationships, is shutting down when they feel hurt instead of expressing it. Nobody benefits from silence or keeping things that are bugging you bottled up. Men are notorious for withholding their needs/emotions/fears/hopes. But times have changed, and a man who can talk about his feelings is what most women want and need. You may feel like you’re not getting the attention you want, but if your partner is preoccupied with work, kids, errands, or just life in general it’s not that she doesn’t care about you or love you, but it’s very difficult to put all that aside. While it’s crucial to have alone time and intimacy with your partner, understand how challenging it might be for her to refocus her energy on you and don’t take it as a sign of rejection. For men to have a successful relationship with a woman they need to go against their inherent nature to fix problems and become better active listeners. We’re not just talking about picking the restaurant or what movie to watch, but also about bigger, life decisions. To many women, a man who avoids making decisions is skirting his responsibilities. Being wishy washy on issues related to career, family, or even the relationship is a total turnoff. Men may not be inclined to express themselves emotionally, but regardless, you must let your partner know how much you like them by being around them and taking care of them. You can tell her through words or even physically. Guys may be able to go without many of these things, but to many women this is her oxygen. Every woman is different and how they deal with things like stress, family, affection, arguments, and surprises will be different too. Keep in mind these few universal things and use your best judgement. Chances are, you know more about your partner than you think.

I just started dating a sweet, awesome girl. Any tips/advice?

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let's be friends, I'm waiting for you in my profile with the best photos especially for you)))

I just started dating a sweet, awesome girl. Any tips/advice?

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let's be friends, I'm waiting for you in my profile with the best photos especially for you))) http://bit.ly/santa_village_3

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