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My bf has an Inappropriate relationship with a girl half his age!!

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My bf has a inappropriate relationship she is 20 he is 43 she is his friends daughter has known her most her life they lived down the rd.. they never talked while we have been together til she moved in down the street renting her moms house... he makes comments about her like she’s hot he wants to fuck her got upset when I didn’t think she was hot then I find out at 16 her asked to see her nipple rings an I got pissed he was saying I wanna take her to a daddy daughter dance she is 20 an just odd shit mind u we talk about other people when we’re bring sexual with each other but never someone we know I told him that wasn’t ok now I feel like he puts her first one example is I asked him to cook with me that’s something we love doing with each other he said no I’m busy I got shit to do in a real rude way hurt my feelings made me cry when he left the kitchen... then she comes down and he dropped what he had to do and did the shit she asked that took a long time few hrs... another time he told me I’m trying to finish what I gotta get done so I can come spend time with u I really am then she comes asks him to go for a walk with her an her dog and his dog... he dropped everything went for an HOUR walk... then goes and does her yard work to get a garden going after I told him I wasn’t cool with it when he was there I told him how upset I was threw text an said I’m ready to leave u I’m about done an says ok we can sell the car u can have the couches when I bring up it sux I spent all my money on this stuff how can I get my shit together... and he never came back to make me feel better or to say don’t leave... I know I’m not overreacting!!! We keep fighting about all this an more and he don’t get how I feel says I’m only upset cuz it’s her if it was anyone else’s it wouldn’t matter that’s crazy the issue is her an him putting her first! He wants to fix shit but he’s not doing anything to make me feel better Idk what to do to get past this an move on! An am I overreacting? I don’t think I am but I need someone else who is unbiased opinion!! Can u please help me with this? Idk what else to do right now!!

My bf has an Inappropriate relationship with a girl half his age!!

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I'm so sorry to say this honey but you need to get out of that relationship. He's delighted with himself with a young one giving him attention. She could have a crush on him but it's more likely she's young and stupid and enjoys the fact that he's there for her at the drop of a hat. If I thought your relationship was worth saving, ie if he's upset at the thought of losing you, I'd go visit the young one and explain how inappropriate her behaviour is. Asking for the odd favour like changing a plug is ok but calling for him to walk her dog with him??!!! No no no. If you have the strength to finish it, he'll be the one who'll regret it. She'll lose interest very quickly. Funny. I came on to ask advice about a relationship I'm in, knowing what the answer will be. I think you're the same and know you can do better. I'm 55, separated, totally in love with someone who I know I should leave and terrified of growing old alone. You're a bit younger? You've still got time to find someone who treats you like you deserve xx

My bf has an Inappropriate relationship with a girl half his age!!

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Hi girls, cheer up. You both need to be strong and end such hopeless situations. Don't be afraid to stay on your own. it's all fun. It sucks for start, really hurts, but you hurt already with no end. Ruthless nasty men are not worth your tears. I have done it before. I cried and cried for the start, I drunk a little bit too much, but I do not recommend it, because alcohol is a dangerous poison and actually will make you feel worse mentally and physically. Just concentrate on yourself. Make sure your hair and nails are done, have some fun with friends, exercise. Exercise helps with producing endorphins and makes you feel happier + look pretty. And when you be happy with yourself you will find better people. Love Marta

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