Confused ex says he loves me
Broke up with my partner of 17 months due to him not compromising re moving in together location wise was his issue .
I’m in late 30’s & felt going forward if he can’t compromise where is this going? Met up with him for chat a month ago both of us said we still love each other & I said if he wants me in his future he has show me commitment- i.e find a decent rental house for us to live as all along he was living with his parents and visiting me in a house share situation. Since this meeting with him we have been in contact a bit by text / phone . This week I’m confused he deactivated his social media . How can he say he loves me and stay away & not commit long term ? I have told him I will forgive him if he shows his commitment to me long term . I am so heart broken
I am sorry to read it. Perhaps he loves you but his situation is more complicated than you think. If he lives with his parents so maybe he isn't financially independent, maybe he worries that he will not be able to support on small salary. Maybe he is in debts and he knows that he can't afford moving out from his parents and he doesn't want to admit it?
Another reason is being afraid of hurting parents feelings? Maybe they rely on him so much that he feels he can't move out so he made a choice between you and your parents?
Or he is just too lazy to move out from parents house.
Just knock on the door and ask him.
Thks for reply . No he is very financially stable & he has always had work even when covit times hit . He is working away hours from
his parents home at the moment by choice .It’s just very sad when I know I have done everything in my power to try help him see sense.
Life is short ,chances of happiness do not occur every week.
I think he is very immature for his age & this is a big factor .