I’m lost what should do
ANONYMOUS TRUCKER - Jul 20 2021 at 04:07
I don’t know what I should do.My life is passing me by and it’s stressing me out.Im a good person easy going but I just don’t know what’s my issue at home.I have nobody to confide in so I came here.Im a 35 yr old male.I’ve been with this woman since 2014 everything was great until she found out she was pregnant and it went down hill from there.she began becoming distant from me but I thought maybe it was depression from being pregnant but I guess it wasn’t that. Fast forward 6 yrs still the same.We rarely talk she’s always on the phone with her friends keep on mind I’m on the road for weeks at a time 2 to 3 weeks but she don’t care all she cares about is that I pay the bills and take care of my son we went over a year without having sex we don’t sleep together but she always wants me to do this and that but I don’t be wanting to but I do it anyway my life sucks she gets mad at me about simple stuff like the dishes ain’t washed but I wasn’t there when they got messed up I can’t touch her I can’t kiss her or nothing she will go places with her friends but not me.I help support her other kids and all they’re father never was there.I’ve tried talking that don’t work she acts like it’s no problem I ask about sex she say no but got a dresser full of toys.I have other females trying to give attention but I just hate to be the bad guy I feel like if I leave I’m letting my kid down. What should I do?
Since you never have married, you can simply move on. You have a legal obligation to financially support and care for your own child. So set up a system to do that. Your soon-to-be ex can get her other baby-daddies to support theirs. It may not have started this way, but it sounds like you're nothing more than a meal ticket now.
Since you've been six/seven years without making a legal commitment to one another, it might be worth considering why before you start another relationship or conceive another child.
I appreciate your response I was thinking that I just didn’t want to feel like I let my kid down because I left the house.
Hi ANONYMOUS TRUCKER: Can we assume you have never been married? I don't know if that is clear. If you have never married this girl, then there has never been the promise of staying together, for better or worse, until death due you part. Why didn't you marry her? If it was her choice to simply "live together", that should have been telling. However, that is past history, so lets look at what we can do now.
If she is unwilling to speak to you about any of your living conditions as partners as you have indicated, perhaps she would consider counseling. If she is opposed to that, also, you could determine your own options and present then to her. One of the options is to continue as is and hope things change. Another is to leave her. After all, there was never the promise to stay that is required in a marriage. Weigh the consequences of both decisions, both the good and the bad consequences and then make a decision. Share that decision with your partner, explain the reasons why, and ask her if she would like to share her thoughts in the matter. If not, you will know what to do.
Let us know how that works for you.
In my opinion, it is better to leave so that the children do not see scandals and such relationships. And support and communicate with your child even outside the relationship, help financially
If you leave, this does not mean at all that you will let your child down, if you continue to communicate and support with him.