Possible overreacting situation before it happens help please
Maybe I am worrying about nothing. Maybe I a reading into something that is not there but here goes. I have been in a relationship with D for over 11 years. We have two amazing children together. D is an amazing guy. He has always been very truthful and honest. He has a very big heart and will give you the shirt right off his back. It is one the things that has always attracted me to him is that he will always help out anyone who's needs it and never excepts anything in return. We both show our children this caring towards others. He has had people he thought were friends take advantage of him in the past because of him being welling to help other out.
Well recently a neighbor has been needing help with things around her house which truthfully I understand being newly single and needing help with things new to her. It just seems like she know when he is getting home and waits for him ( happens about 2-3 a week). Talks to him for a bit before he even comes into the house for dinner and she is asking him over to help her with something and going to feed him. She has even invited him over for drinks late at night and she says am I invited too. I have gone over and she is surprised to see me. He does stay with me but she ends up laying sprawled out on a couch. Last night he went over and I did not I was just exhausted but I could not sleep I had everything about this running through my head. I texted him at 12:30 I was going to sleep. He said he did not realize what time it was and he was heading right home. He did not come home until 15 minutes later and it is only a two minute walk between places. He came in and went straight to the bathroom and took off his shirt and washed up. He came into the bedroom and I asked what happen to his shirt. He said he spilled beer on it trying to open it. I asked do I need to soak it and he said no. I did not want to appear suspicious so I did not do anything until this morning. I couldn't find a stain or smell beer ( it is a light blue cotton tee).
Let me add this in when this all started she was inviting him over into the hot tub with her and a few of her friends and I could hear everything they are loud talkers. Now it is inside.
Another things I recently found out he had finally brought an engagement ring and showed it to our children and a few family members. No I did not snope our youngest can't keep secret ( I did not asked the question either I had no clue about it).
Am I worry about nothing? Do I say anything to him about the neighbor? Do I ask him?
Judging by the topic, it seems that the issue of trust is important here. Have you tried asking your husband something before? How did he react?
You either trust your husband or you don't. Maybe you really should talk to him.
It’s even strange not to trust my husband so much. Talk to him. All this can be solved by a simple dialogue.
Almost all relationship problems can be solved simply by talking frankly with each other.
Well, Since the three opinions above mine are women and extremely biased, it just seems that it is a perfect time for my thoughts on the situation as a man....
Idk what your guys relationship is like or the details, so im giving my answer based straight off the story you wrote.
From my perspective, it seems your are misunderstanding something here. The first paragraph you wrote was subconciously defending him, listing his sweet and caring qualities that made you fall in love with
him, but, how sweet and caring does it get? Does visiting a 'newly single' multiple times a week to 'move furniture' really make sense when you say it out loud??? . Especially the part about where he went alone? At 12:30??? for drinks?? Even if you are the most trusting husband&wife does it make sense at all to just let him go have drinks alone at another girls house at midnight especially???
I dont mean to be rude but, as a woman you should have caught the 'vibe' that she was giving off towards your husband. Your women's intuition probably was ringing bells since you have atleast 8 different facts in this story alone about their encounters.
I won't cut corners, from this story, there is probably 90% chance your husband is cheating on you.
To put the cherry on top, if he gets a fucking engagement ring WHILE YOU ARE ALREADY MARRIED it probably means its not for you....
CUPID PROFESSIONAL RECOMMENDATIONS
ITEM A: Confront him, and be powerful and confident about yourself whilst doing it, dont back down and get answers. Be a strong domineering woman and get ur man back from the whore
ITEM B: Do spy type recon, you can scheme and set up a trap where you 'wont be home' or set up cameras watching the entrance to her home, to see if he ever goes in while you arent around/ not watching.
A lot of diff things, take his phone aswell, just do some espionage.
Well, Your Little 'Bro'