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Strict Asian Dad

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basically I have strict asian dad who has my location on however I was going out with my friends one night and I decided to do the stupidest thing and turn off my location cos I didn’t want him to get worried or check to see where I am.And he immediately got a notification and now he doesn’t trust me anymore and when he came to pick me up he’s so mad that he’s taking my phone for the whole summer until I go university.I’m so so sad that I made him not trust me when I haven’t been doing anything bad. Can anyone give me advice on how I should calm him down/fix this.I want him to trust me again but idk how I should I haven’t slept all night worrying about this.He just thinks I’m lying and I’m so upset

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How old are you? If you are over 18, consider this that he set you free and you don’t need to explain yourself. If you’re under 18, then you should apologize to your father, tell him you were foolish, and that you want to earn back his trust and ask him how to do that.

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Above is a great advice, I have nothing to add. Your further behavior really depends on how old you are now.

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If you are no longer a teenager, then simply explain to your father that you have the right to make your own decisions.

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Yyyyea. What they said. Your older. Its great you look for your dad's approval. That's a huge sign of respect. However, phones are cheap nowadays. Why can't you have a spare phone with a phone card or something, where you don't necessarily do anythg ridiculous but you give yourself the freedom while you leave your phone in the dorm or somethg. Now, I know what your thinking. Thats a futuristic solution to a short term problem.. no worries. Since your dad is really protective, you and I know he's not going to change his stance. You can come home on time and do everythg right and he'll still expect that while your under his care. You can sit down n have a talk a try to get him to understand to no avail... I say you take this time to do the small things he'll allow within the time frame he allows.You don't want to hate his guts but its not cool to feel trapped either.. take the wins as they come,, within the time frame that wont have him come for you bc you were 2 minutes late or something...As soon as school starts make and do as much friends and activities and perhaps on/off campus jobs of any sort so that you can start a life of independence from him. See of you can stay on campus and visit him sometimes to keep it normal and not have him embarrass you by showing up frequently to campus. This may have to be played as a long game endeavor.

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