My ex broke up with me last week, Iv fine the usual asking if but when how etc.. she’s just saying she didn’t see a future despite being engaged to be married..
Trouble is she keeps telling she loves me, misses me and think I’m wonderful followed by but it’s best we split up..
I think it’s a little cruel she keeps saying those things considering she knows I love her and want her back ..
She sent 2 messages today “ I’m so sorry honey, I’m happy to meet you when I don’t have children.
I want you to be happy, please try abs forget about me xxx”
And then sent. “ I think so much of you. I want to stay friends xxx”
I’m a bit confused and lost… can anyone help?
I don't know what the deal-breaker was: having kids? How to raise them? Her job? Your job? Does one of you drink? There's *something* about your future that she doesn't see as being part of hers.
Anyway, the person who ends the relationship often throws out the *we should still be friends* bone to the person being dumped. I think most people feel badly about ending a relationship, and want to be kind. It isn't, though. The person left behind is hurt and often takes every gesture as a sign the other person still cares. (They do, but not the way the former partner wishes.)
The friends thing can work, but only after the grief-stricken has gotten over the loss of her/his dream. Make a vow to yourself you'll look her up in six months (absolutely no sooner). By then, you'll feel better and will probably have started dating again.
I won’t need to block her as she won’t pester me..but I do hear you..
I won’t bore you with the details but Her reasons are bizarre and I think she’s the one with the problems, it’s just unfortunate after treating her so well I find my self in this situation, I read lies I can’t force her to want me again. It is over and I know this..😔
I think that she is not really giving you a valid reason and in a bine in her "mind" what she wants. I also think there is a lack of communication between you and her. I am not saying it is your fault at all but I think you and her need to see each other or speak over the phone so you both can really express to each other where you both are with things and see if something can be worked out or not. I think that she needs to be more open to explaining what she wants and why she thinks that is best to split up. I hope that she can be fully transparent with you regarding this. It will also help you to know the issues and for you to make a determination for yourself on what is best for you and your mental health. There is nothing worse than chasing after a women or trying to figure out issues or problems when the other does not want to fully express or explain the issues. ]
I wish you the best of luck!
At first she said I see no future, then it was I wasn’t happy what the relationship brought, then it was she got bored, then I got we wasn’t compatible, and the latest reason she said I had lived a sheltered life compared to her and it wasn’t my fault but it concerned her..
Now considering she’s ill, has numerous animals and kids to look after, I spent a year helping her in every way possible, she had numerous angry out bursts towards me she’s caused a lot of problems for us to deal with.
In respect to us finishing.. yesterday she told me she was struggling etc, I said she’ll be ok when we meets another man that can help her. She said I don’t want another man 😢… well she doesn’t want me neither..
Now considering she seems certain we are over why is she telling me she’s struggling? I can’t help her, she’s acting like I finished the relationship… she’s struggling because she loves me but she choose to end it.. why tell me? Iv not spoken to her since yesterday.
Ok so last night she phones and offer friendship, I question what I can give her as friends that I can’t ad a bf..
She tells me she’s crying this morning stressing about us and things etc.. we were meant to talk again tonight but didn’t and then I get this message..
I’ts been a tough day, I’m just into bed.
Hope you’re doing ok, you sound like you’re doing well without me.
Goodnight, sleep well xxx
She testing me in some way? She trying to make me chase her or what?
Sounds like she’s worried about me not chasing her or something?