How to deal with wife being drugged and assaulted- so I think!
A few months ago, my wife and I invited a male friend and a female friend to our home for dinner and drink. After dinner, the 2 women were drinking wine and we were drinking beer. An hour later, the male friend offered THC gummies to my wife. She never did drugs but she took 3 gummies and 3 pieces of chocolate (no one else took it) 40mg in total. Another hour later my wife got high and horny. She started making out with the female friend. I then told the male friend to leave, its my wife and her friend. He left quietly. About 10min into the action, I ran upstairs to get a condom thinking I will be part of a 3some that involved my wife. On the way upstairs, I passed the male friend in the Livingroom and told him- do not go downstairs. As I went to grab the condom, I returned and found him with the women. He was kissing my wife's breast and fingering her while the female friend was kissing my wife. I saw my wife was responding to their touches as she was enjoying getting pleasured. I was left in a shock and started cursing and yelling to get out of my house.
The next day, my wife says she does not remember doing anything. She said she does not remember kissing or making out with the female friend and does not remember the male friend doing anything to her. She said she remembered everything up until they started making out and she regains her senses when I turn the lights on and yelled get out my house. All this happen for about 15min, which she stated her mind went blank. I am having a hard time dealing with this
1. because I don't believe my wife suddenly blacked out for 15minutes, yet I saw she was feeling and responding to pleasures
2. I believe she is not being honest with me, maybe because she liked what was happening.
After I told her what happened, she showed no emotions. I believe she was sexually assaulted but in her mind nothing happen. How do I cope with this? its been affecting me real badly and I'm having a difficult time getting by. There were also things the male friend were doing to my wife before she got high, for instance touching her arms and rubbing her head and neck. She told me, he is a friend and that meant nothing. Let it be known that we are married for 14yrs and we've been faithful to each other. Please help.
She claims to not remember ONLY the 15 minutes that she was cheating on you? That sounds really shady to me. Not to mention that she was defending the male friend openly flirting with her earlier in the night. The whole situation is so disrespectful to you, especially considering it all happened in your house.
I've heard of couples working through worse, but only you can decide whether she's worth the effort. I'd at least try to give her another chance to come clean so that you can make the most informed decision possible. And I'd also be worried about the imminent possibility of her seeing this friend again. That would definitely mess with me.
I hope you can get through this. Don't be afraid to post updates.
So, you having a threesome is okay, but your wife having one was not? Okaaaay. No, I don't believe for a minute that your wife doesn't remember 15 minutes of this evening.
I have no idea what you and your wife discussed regarding extra-marital activity. That you didn't put a stop to this immediately and discuss how this *could* advance is just plain stupid. You decided to take an opportunistic approach and see if you could get in on the action. It looks like your wife did, too. I guess the two of you are a good match.