Parents are kinda sucky
LOVEISGOD123 - Sep 23 2021 at 03:35
I am a teenage trans boy with ADHD and I've been falling behind on school. My parents are understandably upset but I think that they are taking it too far. My dad has gotten better with handling me over the past years, but it feels like my mom just doesn't care anymore. Every time I am trying to work on my current homework she gets mad at me for not working on the missing stuff, but when I catch up on the missing work all my current stuff falls behind and the cycle starts again. It just keeps piling up and I don't know what to do anymore. I've tried explaining how I feel before, she said when I'm drowning I need someone to help me, I told her that it felt like they were the ones holding me under the water. She just yelled at me. I don't know what to do, some advice would be appreciated.
Talk to a close teacher in school to help you out with school work. For your school work, you will have to put more effort than anyone else not for the benefit of anyone but for yourself. Our parents are humans too so they make mistakes without even realizing it.
In the mist of annoyance, you will have to learn to be forgiving and focus on your happiness and other good things they have done for you. It is not your fault that you have ADHD and maybe your folks haven't come in terms with knowing how to understand you better.
You might want to be rebellious but that is not the best approach. Focus on being the best version of yourself, your mum may come around or may never understand but your strength is your ability to forgive and be a better person. Interact with respectable people that have ADHD and know how they cope.
If you are Christian, ask God for his help.
I would refrain from sharing with them how you feel, since it seems like they are not good at comforting but instead hurt you
They are being upset probably due to seeing you fall behind and feel that it is a reflection of their parent skills. They feel the need to hammer the schoolwork into you so that they feel better, not you.
Moms tend to micromanage and nag, simply reassure her you are doing it and be nonchalant about this, if you can.
Parents do try to help but sometimes it is out of their own need to feel validated as well
Also maybe to do with how they were raised or their parents modeled certain behaviors.
Take it easy on yourself and reach out to someone who you can talk to besides your parents, if you can.