Husband of 27 years! Portrays me a crazy person and trash talks me.
I have been married for 25 years with a man that shows me much affection and tells me he loves me every day. On the other side of the coin he can become a beast when comfronted or asked for an explanation. This is how our arguments always escalate. Behind my back he portrays me as a crazy lunatic. He has 3 sons now 37, 35 and 32. We have one 26 yo daughter together. He has turned his kids against me, especially the youngest now 32. The 32 yo son whom I practically raised and loved dearly and did my part as he became a man.
Everyone started to hate me more and more because I don't approve of many things. Such as the fact that these boys now men have never had any chores or jobs required. In summary the oldest is now 37 and married, the 35 yo is also married and both on their own. Our daughter moved out with her now Fiancé 5 years ago. The 32 yo lives with us. He has never worked or paid any bills, is extremely disrespectful of his father etc...He controls everything my husband does and lately even what he eats. It's insane! Through the years, I've had many bouts of depression, nervous breakdowns and lots of anxiety etc...I've gradually explored every bit of what could be wrong with me. In conclusion I've recently realized that I’ve been Gas lighted for 27 years and that my husband is a Narcissistic Pathological Liar. The man lies about anything even the smallest of things. He has to my face said and very convincing has insisted that I’ve said or did something that has never happened.
A lifetime of financial betrayals and discounted as his wife to satisfy his kids needs and wants before mine. Also friends, everyone is a priority to him. Except me and how this affects (has destroyed our marriage). My husband recently turned 60 and has been diagnosed with Parkinson’s amongst other diagnosis. I’ve always taken care of this man always have put him and the children first. I’ve always worked very hard and have nothing to show for it. 5 years ago we relocated to the west coast from the east coast to start a new business venture as a family. Husband, myself and 32 yo son.
Once we got here things didn’t go as planned so, I’ve been working like a mule to cover our $4,200 household mostly on my own. Husband works to provide for himself and unemployed son whom plays video games and sits in his room all day, and also to pay for his business and keep up with investment. Recently things have changed husbands business is on track. He opened a business account and added his son as a signer and gave him a debit card. (Did it behind my back) When I confronted him, he told me it’s none of my business and that he needs to make his son part of something. I calmly said I want a divorce. He replied; Go get one, you’re not going to bully me…lol. Today I packed all of my belongings and will be staying in a spare room until I seek legal counsel.
You seem to be under immense stress. That’s no way to live.
If you are able to earn enough to support the entire group, you don’t need to accept such negativity from those you support.
Take care of yourself.
Thank you! In fact it's been terrible. And yes I am blessed to do well and feel much love and appreciation everywhere I go. Except here. I'm out!