Should I be FWB with this girl?
IN_A_DILEMMA - Nov 28 2021 at 11:41
Brace yourselves, this is gonna be a really long one. So usually on Saturday evenings, I (26M) visit this small dog park right next to my apartment. About 2 months ago, I was playing catch with my dog sitting on the park bench and this girl (22F), lets call her Emily, is also sitting on one of the benches and she’s crying. I could see that she was upset so I didn’t disturb her. After a while she stops crying and then comes and sits next to me. She then asks me if she could play with my dog and me being sympathetic and knowing that she was upset, said yes. At this point I noticed how beautiful she was. She was stunning - perfect 10/10. She played with my dog for a while and then we both made small talk for a little while. After that, she looked at her phone and then for some reason started tearing up. I asked if she was okay and then consoled her and while I was doing that, she came onto me and kissed me. This was surprising to me because 1) She was just crying & 2) I am not that attractive so I’m not used to such beautiful women coming onto me. Tempting as it was, I put all my effort into rejecting her kiss and told her that she was upset and I didn’t want to take advantage of that. She told me I was a really nice person and then left. Then the very next day, I was at the park and saw her again but this time she seemed a bit more cheerful. She told me that it was really nice of me to not take advantage of her and that I was the first person who rejected a kiss from her. All the while she’s talking, all I could think of was how hot she was. Then she said that she really wants to thank me for consoling her the previous day and she wanted to buy me a drink. I politely refused saying that it wasn’t necessary but she was adamant and so I said okay. I told her that my apartment was nearby and before leaving for the bar I wanted to leave my dog there. She followed me back to the apartment and me being chivalrous, asked her if she wanted to come in. She said okay but at this point I was thinking that she was just being polite and nothing was going to happen.
We enter my apartment and she sits on the sofa in the living room. I get her some water and then sit on the sofa next to her. She drinks the water and then immediately she leans over and starts kissing me. This time, I give in (I’m only a man) and we both make out for like 5 minutes before moving to the bedroom. We had amazing, incredible sex. She's 100 times more beautiful naked and I couldn’t believe that this was happening to me. During sex, I was about to climax and I warned her. She immediately jumped off my dick and told me that she wanted me to cum in her mouth. Before I could react, she started sucking my dick like mad and within seconds I came in her mouth. Here’s the bizarre part - after I cum, she reaches over to her phone and then takes a selfie with her mouth open so that my cum is visible on her tongue. I noticed her doing that but I was just reveling in the aftermath of the orgasm that I didn't ask her anything about it. Moreover I wasn't in the picture, so I wasn't very concerned. After that we went for another round and this time, while she’s riding me, she reaches over to her phone again. She sets up her phone so that it is recording her riding me. This time I was a little bit concerned and I asked her about it. She told me that it is only recording her and that she would delete it immediately afterwards. I was mid-coitus, (I was thinking with my penis) so I said okay and continued having sex. After we both finished, I told her that I was uncomfortable with her recording us. She said okay and then deleted the video. I asked her if she usually does stuff like that and she said no. It was the first time she had ever recorded herself during sex. I thought that was very odd but did not think much of it. We both cuddled for a few minutes afterward and then she went into the bathroom to take a shower.
After the shower she tells me that she is gonna call a cab. I said okay and then she said that she would let herself out, so I can go ahead and do whatever I want. So, I hop into the shower and in like 2 minutes, I could hear her on the phone shouting and arguing with someone. I didn’t think much of it but soon her argument became so loud that I thought it would disturb the neighbors. I immediately jumped out of the shower and I quickly dried myself and went to the living room. She was in tears. I asked her what was wrong but she refused to tell me. I could see that she was really upset so I stopped asking questions and just comforted her and she cried in my arms for a while. After that, she asked me if she could spend a couple more hours at my place because the keys to her place were with her friend and she could only meet her after 2 hours. I genuinely felt bad for her so I said okay. We ordered dinner, made small talk and then watched some TV. After about 90 minutes, I asked her if she wanted me to call her a cab. In response to this, she rose up from the sofa, came over to my side and then sat on my lap, facing me with her legs by my side on the sofa. And then she proceeded to take her top off. I was going through a bit of a dry spell at that time and I couldn’t resist a beautiful girl throwing herself at me. We had sex again multiple times and after what felt like eternity, I fell asleep.
After an hour of sleep, I woke up to shouting noises. Turns out, it's her once again fighting on the phone. I told her to calm down and not disturb the neighbors but she kept raising her voice. Now, I raised my voice and told her to “Calm the f down”. She threw her phone at the floor and stormed off to the bathroom crying. I pick up her phone and guess who’s on the other end? Her BF. I was pissed because I didn’t know this. So I went into the bathroom angrily to confront her. And then she tells me this story about how her BF did something terrible to her and she wanted to get revenge. And that revenge was doing something that she never let her boyfriend do. She tells me that he always wanted to cum in her mouth but she never let him. She also tells me that he wanted to record them having sex but she refused that as well. But now as revenge, she sent the selfie with my cum in her mouth and the video of us having sex to her boyfriend. I don't know how she recovered the video but she sent it to her boyfriend while I was in the shower earlier and that was the cause of the first argument. Now apparently her boyfriend had called her once more because he couldn't find her at her house and she was arguing with him again for the second time. After hearing all this, I was very angry so I told her to get the hell out of my house. I told her that she used me and lied to me. She said she was really sorry and then left my place. All of this happened 2 months ago.
2 weeks ago, I was in the same park and was just about to leave when I saw Emily again. She came over to me and told me that she was really sorry about what happened. I was not having any of it and didn’t respond to her. She then proceeded to sit on the bench next to me and told me that I didn’t have to say anything but she wanted me to listen to her story. I reluctantly agreed and she told me about the stuff that led to her breakup. At some point, I genuinely started feeling bad for her because her boyfriend was an absolute asshole. (I won't go into detail as to what he did, but basically he did something that if revealed would put him in Jail). She told me that regardless of what her BF (now ex) did, that she should not have used me like that and that she was sorry. I’m sympathetic by nature, so I accepted her apology. Last week, I saw her again and we chatted for a little while. From our conversation, it seems like she is a nice girl who just made a mistake. I told her that I forgave her and made her promise never to use people like that.
Today, I met her at the park again and at the end of our conversation she surprised me by saying that she wants to be FWB with me. She said that she really liked the sex and that we should make the most of it. Now, I’m in a dilemma because I usually don't do stuff like this and it seems like the whole situation has a bunch of red flags. But like I said at the beginning, I’m not a really attractive guy and I don't get opportunities like this.
So, should I say YES or NO?
No. I see her playing at getting the boyfriend jealous and him hunting you down. She loves drama. She's immature. She's using you, but I wouldn't cont on the bf being a sane or nice guy. After all, if he was, he'd dump a girl manipulating him like this.
trust me bro man to man shit, fwb ain’t the one man it gets too fustrating esp when u like her ya feel me:)