My boyfriend gets mad when I touch him at night
I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year, and we’ve been living together for 4 months. tonight I got to bed when he was already asleep and put my head on his shoulder. He god mad at me for waking him up and was rude to me. This isn’t the first time this happens. Recently he got mad at me when I adjusted our blanket at night because that also woke him up. I feel like I always have to be scared of accidentally waking him up and him becoming angry. I feel hurt. What do you think about this?
He doesn't like being disturbed while sleeping. Adjusting the blanket - frankly I don't know how much you can do about that except to do what I do: I have a separate extra blanket on MY side of the bed, only. That's enough to keep me warm if he's rolled over an extra time and taken the majority of the blanket with him.
But YOU'RE hurt? He told you he doesn't like being disturbed while sleeping, AND YOU INTENTIONALLY RESTED YOUR HEAD ON HIS SHOULDER. That's disrespectful on your part. He shouldn't have been rude I guess, but he's informed you of his preferences, you've heard him, and decided his rest or his feelings don't matter.
If this is that important to you, I guess you need to move on. Most people aren't this sensitive, but he's entitled to his feelings. More people than you'd imagine sleep in separate beds. I know a couple married for years who sleep in separate rooms.
I don't think you're too sensitive. Some People like to cuddle in bed and maybe he doesn't. I would be careful about waking him just out of respect for his wishes. However if it becomes a pattern there could be an underlying issue. Yet I wouldn't overthink it yet.
Relationships can be difficult but a good way to endure them is learning his love language.
Talk about that with him. "Maybe he just doesn't like it" ...yeah, clearly? But that's no reason to be mad, at all.
Make sure to have a proper conversation about this or anything simillar that worries you. Try to understand why he doesn't wan you to touch him while asleep and why he answers that way.
If he's this responsive with other things taht he doesn't like, I'd suggest therapy, to control anger. This could be due to lots of stress or some unhealed kind of trauma. Don't worry, be patient, but know your worth.
Communication is key for everything on any circumstance. ;-) (A)