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Hi Guys I am trying to get my mind in gear would welcome honest advice and not judging me on what I say. I have started a New Job,in this pandemic World there are social policy's in place IE face mask to be worn at all time. staggered lunches most eat lunch in our cars. I have become friendly with a women in work,she is seeing someone,I am also living with someone. Attraction has grown between us to a point where her breathing quickens when we speak, and often we would share strong looks at each other. When I chat to other women she would befriend them then the conversation would stop with them. Just before the XMas break I asked her if she was ok at her car as she looked distant, she said she was planning her trip to go home, I told her to have a great trip. Now the confusion, next day she moved from her normal parking space,when I walk in the room she would run away, I gave her space have not even wished her a Happy New Year yet, recently she has started to hang around my work area again and a few looks at me again but still not talking. She got mad the other day, another woman and I where having a funny conversation,she became visibly annoyed,her back stiffened her head went higher and walked with a purpose away. Here is my dilemma, I can still feel the electricity is there between us I believe her backing off was a test to see how I would respond, I could be reading this all wrong doubt it.I am leaving the company soon, have told only a select few, should I give her my personal information I would like to see where this could go, I realize we both are in relationships, but I think its something I would like to see where it goes and live now not wonder what if. welcome genuine advice

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Genuine advice. You are both with someone else. Stop trying to cheat on your partners!

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You both have partners. If you want to see where another relationship would go, end your current one first. Your current one will always look less interesting on the surface. You'll never fight with the 'other woman' about bills, who took out the garbage, whose turn it is to do the dishes, why laundry is on the floor instead of the hamper, etc. You poor judgement is also evident in getting your tail where you get your paycheck. Bad move. WHEN you break up (not if) it will be awkward. If it's awkward enough, one of you may be asked to leave. Given that you are new, and the current political climate, that person will be you.

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I agree, with most of what you have said. I have tendered my resignation from the Company, and as I have no contact details with the Co Worker, I should be able to focus on the norm. I know we both have partners, and everything you have said is valid and true. I know it may sound stupid, but I have never been unfaithful nor want to hurt anyone, and realize how my actions could destroy many people. I guess we all at some point in our lives have a self destruct button. Thanks for your candid honest advice. I have to chat to some work colleagues about my decision to leave, I wonder how that will go. Any advice of what not to say or do?

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You don't *have to chat* with your colleagues. I have no idea why you're leaving. The standard reason for leaving your job is that you "found something that was a better fit."

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Ah mate , I hate the job i am in. Boss is a Passive aggressive control person to put a nice tint on it. I have toyed with the idea for a while, the only fun I was having in the Job was the Electric chemistry between myself and the other woman. My wife and I have some issues to be resolved but to be honest its like an old band aid covering a wound that wont heal. Thanks for the input Hope you had a great weekend

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Ah mate , I hate the job i am in. Boss is a Passive aggressive control person to put a nice tint on it. I have toyed with the idea for a while, the only fun I was having in the Job was the Electric chemistry between myself and the other woman. My wife and I have some issues to be resolved but to be honest its like an old band aid covering a wound that wont heal. Thanks for the input Hope you had a great weekend

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